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Post by gringalais on Feb 6, 2009 19:13:01 GMT
In 4 weeks I will be married. I am very happy, but at the same time the concept has taken some getting used to since for most of my life I never pictured myself married.
And I haven't really done anything yet. I do have tentative plans to go shopping for something to wear with a friend the weekend after this one, and we are supposed to be having dinner with the friend who will be my witness next week, so I guess that is a bit of progress, but I feel like we should have done more than that. We haven't even looked at rings yet.
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Post by auntieannie on Feb 6, 2009 19:15:09 GMT
oooh! that is refreshing, gringa! You will be fine. I think I would try and do the same if I ever marry.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 6, 2009 19:17:57 GMT
I think that panic will mount in the coming weeks, but it will fade away just as quickly as long as you are certain that you have made the right decision.
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Post by happytraveller on Feb 6, 2009 20:24:13 GMT
Gringalais, getting married doesn't "hurt"  Life just goes on afterwards. |
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Post by palesa on Feb 7, 2009 5:16:39 GMT
Gringa, it will all be fine, the wedding is but a few hours, it is after all the journey afterwards that really counts.
Of course, you have a bunch of interfering nosy ladies here, that would just love to give advice and choose a dress for you, so if you need help, we are waiting in the wings.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 7, 2009 5:44:26 GMT
It will be great, Gringa. Just concentrate on the day itself, so that everything else doesn't feel like a chore. Decide if you will do anything to celebrate, and if so, keep it simple enough that it doesn't require lots of logistics. Whatever it is -- a mimosa brunch with catered food, or some wine and hors d'oeuvres -- plan it now and get it over with. If a friend wants to do this for you, let her. Don't stress about the dress, either -- you'll see something pretty, maybe before your shopping date with your friend.
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Post by ninchursanga on Feb 7, 2009 7:32:20 GMT
Don't stress yourself out on this. Just keep it relaxed and be glad you're not turning into bridezilla.
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Post by gringalais on Feb 9, 2009 0:59:05 GMT
No bridezella here. We went and ordered the rings today, they'll be ready in a week. It feels good to have that sorted out.
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Post by palesa on Feb 9, 2009 7:31:35 GMT
There we go, one thing ticked off your list!
Honestly, we had 20 people at our wedding, and about 6 weeks before the wedding, I realised that I had not done a thing. I took a days leave and truly got a whole lot ticked off in one day. The smaller the better, and the less to do.
We still have not chosen our bridesmaids dresses yet ;D
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Post by happytraveller on Feb 9, 2009 7:41:40 GMT
We still have not chosen our bridesmaids dresses yet ;D Heehehe ! *goes to the travel agent to book a flight to Chile* |
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 9, 2009 8:15:54 GMT
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Post by palesa on Feb 9, 2009 8:22:21 GMT
Perfect!
The dresses just need more fluff than that! I was thinking big sleeves and a big bow at the back. The cardboard would just finish it off!
I wanted shocking pink, but everyone else voted for blue.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 9, 2009 9:20:30 GMT
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Post by welle on Feb 9, 2009 12:26:40 GMT
What I want to know is if you're going on a honeymoon.
Glad you got the rings sorted out, that's awesome.
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Post by Kimby on Feb 10, 2009 7:31:30 GMT
In 4 weeks I will be married...And I haven't really done anything yet. You did the most important thing - you found/picked/recognized the right person. And isn't that REALLY what it should be about? Have you known each other a long time? |
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Post by Aussielover on Feb 10, 2009 11:29:59 GMT
Do what my husband and I did - keep it simple. Friends put together the lunch and did the flowers and cake. I didn't have to do much more than show up - and even then I was given the chance to run away by my limo driver, who is also a friend. He would have driven past the place we were getting married if I'd given him the word, LOL! Glad I went through with it, though.
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Post by gringalais on Feb 10, 2009 14:40:59 GMT
welle - no immediate plans for a honeymoon. This is high season here since everyone is on summer vacation so everything is expensive and crowded. Plus, we've done quite a bit of traveling the last few months.
kimby - we will have been together 9 months by the wedding date.
Aussielover - I completely agreee, neither of us wants a big expensive ceremony or reception.
Tomorrow he meets my friend who is going to be my witness. I hope she gives him her stamp of approval.
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Post by Kimby on Feb 10, 2009 15:26:24 GMT
Having known my husband for 8 YEARS before tying the knot, I can't imagine being sure "he's the one" after only 9 months. Do you have "butterflies" yet?
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Post by palesa on Feb 10, 2009 15:29:00 GMT
I knew my husband for 7 years before we got married, but I knew "he was the one" from very early in our relationship.
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Post by Kimby on Feb 10, 2009 15:37:19 GMT
I knew very early on that something was "different" from previous relationships. Took a long time to verify what the difference was.
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Post by missalaska on Feb 10, 2009 16:39:37 GMT
You'll be fine. You are keeping it simple so that is fine, all will go to plan. Hell I didn't know one of our witnesses and they only took a lunch hour off to come witness us.
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Post by gringalais on Feb 10, 2009 17:22:45 GMT
It's strange, I never could even picture myself married before and did not see myself marrying either of my long-term exes. I guess that is why I am sure I want to do this.
My witness friend and I have known each other since 1993, the first time I lived in Chile and she is sort of like my big sister who watches over me since I am so far from my family. Therefore she said she must meet him first. I don't know what I will do if she doesn't approve! We haven't seen each other much over the past months because she is dating a guy who lives in Viña del Mar on the coast, so she is there most weekends. The few times she has been around, we seem to be out of town and her work and helping out her elderlyt mom have her really busy during the week.
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Post by ninchursanga on Feb 10, 2009 19:26:31 GMT
So your witness friend hasn't met the lucky man yet? I'm sure if you have such a good feeling about him that she will approve. A good friend does see who makes you happy and who doesn't.
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Post by gringalais on Feb 11, 2009 16:16:05 GMT
So your witness friend hasn't met the lucky man yet? I'm sure if you have such a good feeling about him that she will approve. A good friend does see who makes you happy and who doesn't. Yeah, they haven't met yet. I am just a little nervous. It is hard to explain, but she has some sort of 6th sense about manhy things, she always seems to be right. So, if for some reason she doesn't like him . . . At least so far from what she knows, she has a good impression of him, she thinks he has his act together/is more responsable than my ex, which is true. |
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Post by Kimby on Feb 11, 2009 17:53:00 GMT
Why have you not introduced the important people in your life to each other already?
Is it a distance thing? Or a not enough time thing?
Or an "I've spent every spare minute of the last nine months with my new love, and have neglected the other people in my life" thing? ;-)
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Post by gringalais on Feb 11, 2009 17:59:34 GMT
That was answered above, kimby: We haven't seen each other much over the past months because she is dating a guy who lives in Viña del Mar on the coast, so she is there most weekends. The few times she has been around, we seem to be out of town and her work and helping out her elderly mom have her really busy during the week. She and I always seem to go through phases where we see each other a lot and then don't see each other for a while, but we are always in touch through other methods like phone/messenger/e-mail. We tried a few times in the past to get together so she could meet him, but had a hard time agreeing on a date (he also had a class a few nights a week for a while). Then the holidays hit, which had her busy with family stuff, then she was away on vacation most of January. She got back and we went away for 2 weekends in a row, so now they will finally meet. Apart from her he has met my close friends and vice versa. |
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Post by Kimby on Feb 13, 2009 18:39:39 GMT
Sounds like you are just suffering from nerves, and that she will probably love him as you do.
It will be lovely if all your people love each other. But even if they don't, you can compartmentalize your life a bit to have quality time with all of them.
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Post by gringalais on Feb 15, 2009 19:38:17 GMT
As I mentioned in another post, she approved him and sent me the copy of her ID card I need to take over to the Registro Civil. He still needs to decide who will be his witness. He had asked a good friend that he has known forever. However, the guy sadly seems to be having issues with drinking and is being kind of flaky, so he probably should find someone else.
Picked up the rings on Friday. We are wearing them on the right finger as is customary here before the ceremony. That is when we switch to the left hand. I need to fix something with my camera to take a picture.
I went shopping for clothes, but in the end I am going to wear a cute dress I already have that is relatively new. The few things I liked were insanely expensive or not available in my size since I am on the small side. The juniors dept has my size, but nothing was appropriate.
Instead I went to Lush and splurged on some nice things there with some of the dress money.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 15, 2009 21:14:34 GMT
Oooo ~~ Lush! That definitely is more appropriate to the honeymoon part of the wedding and more important than the dress you'll wear to stand before the judge.
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Post by gringalais on Feb 16, 2009 3:33:05 GMT
If I had found something that I really liked, I probably would have bought it, but there was nothing I liked that I could afford and since it is just simple civil ceremony it just didn't seem wort it to either spend to much or waste money on something I wasn't crazy about.
And OT - there is a reason I haven't let myself step foot in Lush before, I am a sucker for their type of products. At least my fiance has a new option for birthday, etc. gifts.
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