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Post by bixaorellana on Jul 20, 2017 19:40:08 GMT
I TOTALLY agree that one should share on social media if oneself is killed. Important to get a selfie of that, if possible.
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Post by questa on Jul 21, 2017 0:11:19 GMT
and these people Vote???
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Post by bixaorellana on Jul 21, 2017 1:03:43 GMT
I dunno about that one. Do you think they let him/her out of The Facility to vote?
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Post by bjd on Jul 21, 2017 5:49:06 GMT
I'm beginning to think that a clampdown on social media might be a good thing. These people are lunatics.
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Post by questa on Jul 21, 2017 6:55:11 GMT
I think it is more likely that they have boiled their brains out with ICE, speed and other strange chemicals.
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Post by kerouac2 on Jul 21, 2017 8:04:38 GMT
Question
I do not even know where to start. My parents have been very abusive ever since a young age. They had a very bad marriage relationship that affected us badly. My dad had some mental issues before. When he was younger, he used to take it all out on us in our early childhood through physical and emotional abuse. My brothers suffered the worse; he used to beat them up for nothing. They sent my two brothers, who were 14 and 15 years old to Malaysia for university alone, despite their inability to comprehend university at such a young age and despite our very good financial status that could grant them an education at any age just because dad is 50 years old and is afraid that he might die before seeing them make his dreams of becoming engineers and successful come true. My brothers are suffering severely given that now they are in London alone, while they are only 16 and 17 years old. One of them is in a very noticeably bad condition (suffering from depression, hinting at being gay).
My sisters and I are locked in a cage; they do not even allow us to work or attend courses to improve ourselves. They made us all go for a pharmacy degree so that they can use the certificate for their own financial personal use although we are really rich already. They banned me from attending a debate club and a charity club, so I do it behind their backs. I prayed the Istikharah (prayer of consultation) prayer before doing so, and the results were positive, but I still feel guilty about it. I am 20 years old, and they want me to get married to anyone just because they want to get rid of the responsibility; my dad has been hinting at a forced marriage. I know that I will not be able to ever get out of their control. They plan to force even my brothers into marriages of their choice. We have been finding evidence that dad has been cheating on mom since a long time, but we are not sure. I have been having really bad thoughts, and God knows which maniacal episodes I have been through. I once took my hijab off and wanted to go back home and burn the house down, but my sister stopped me. I even had thoughts of killing them. I am desperately losing hope. Do not tell me to be patient, I am losing.
Answer
May Allah make it easy for you. When we receive letters like these, the answers or advice given is based on what is said in the letter or the question. Often times, the questioner might be exaggerating the matter. I see some contradicting things in your letter; you say that you feel that you are locked in a cage, but then you say that you studied pharmacy. So I assume that you did not like to study pharmacy but were forced to do so by your father.
It seems that your father cares for you and your brothers and sister but that there is a lack of communication between you and him. After all these years, what you should do is to give your father his right, as Allah wants from you, regardless of how your father was to you, since this is an act of obedience to Allah. Gently speak to your father about your concerns, without being angry or disrespectful to him. Each person is responsible for their own actions; if your father is not giving his children their rights, Allah, the Most Just, will ask him on the Day of Judgment, but that should not cause you not to fulfill your father’s rights, otherwise you will also be subjected to the punishment of Allah.
Life is a test, and Allah is the Most Wise. He created your father to be your father as one of the reasons for you to show obedience to Allah. One of these acts of worship is “patience”; it is mentioned in the Quran over a hundred times. You said, “Do not tell me to be patient, I am losing,” but this is not the right way for a Muslim. Without Patience there is no faith, so change your attitude and be patient, because this is your way towards happiness in this life and the Hereafter.
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Post by whatagain on Jul 21, 2017 10:40:39 GMT
What is worse ? The question or the answer ?
Moron and oxymoron.
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Post by questa on Jul 21, 2017 11:25:06 GMT
Take away all the religious references and the old boy seems to be on track. 20 year old girl having a 15 yr old's rant. Dragging up anything to suit herself ('evidence' of dad's affair but 'not sure') Forbidden to go out but does so anyway. Girl needs medical help for 'maniacal' episodes, also see a counselor who may get Dad and girl to mediation.'rich' Dad fears he might not see his kids successful so pushes them. They are lucky he is setting them up for when he is no longer around to support them. The advisor's first 2 paragraphs are good. He could have reflected her feelings a bit more and pointed out Dad's love and concern for kids so she can see it from both sides. Story doesn't say what country/culture they live in. Makes a difference.
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Post by patricklondon on Jul 21, 2017 15:32:19 GMT
Story doesn't say what country/culture they live in. Makes a difference. An Islamic society with traditional ideas about father's status, but where father sees his job as pushing both male and female children into respectable professional status (and not just sitting on their wealth); and one where sending children to Malaysian universities is seemingly not out of the ordinary. Not Singapore, or any of Malaysia's predominantly Buddhist neighbours. My guess is Bangladesh (possibly one of the more Muslim areas of the Philippines). My blog | My photos | My video clips"too literate to be spam"
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Post by questa on Jul 22, 2017 2:47:50 GMT
Yes, Patrick, I'm with you in your reasoning. Filipinos tend to go to USA as there are more scholarships available. These lads went on to London. The debate and charity groups she mentioned indicate some organisational communities. No mention of military action. Sounds like a big city girl. Local universities bypassed. I'd go for Islamabad, Pakistan.
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Post by kerouac2 on Jul 23, 2017 22:18:11 GMT
Question
I always experience ill thoughts, and when I think about masturbating, I ward off these thoughts and perform ghusl (i.e. ritual bath) for janabah (i.e. state major ritual impurity). Is this the right thing to do given that no pre-ejaculatory fluid was discharged? Do I need to shave my pubic hair when performing ghusl? When I finish the ghusl, I might find some unshaved pubic hair and feel that my ghusl was invalid, so I perform ghusl again and shave with firmer strokes and end up with some cuts. Note that I am always haunted with ill thoughts.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad , is His slave and Messenger.
These ill thoughts are from Satan, who devises evil plots in his attempt to spoil the worship of the believer and confuse him. A man came to the Prophet , and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have thoughts of such (an ill) nature that I would rather fall from the sky than speak about them.” He , said, “Allah is Great! Allah is Great! Allah is Great! Praise be to Allah, Who reduced the guile of Satan to the mere prompting of evil.” [Ahmad]
You should turn to Allah, the Exalted, seeking His help and aid and rely on Him so that He will not allow Satan to have power or control over you. Allah, the Exalted, says (what means): {Indeed, there is for him no authority over those who have believed and rely upon their Lord.} [Quran 16:99]
As for thinking about masturbating, you should ward off these thoughts because masturbation is impermissible in Islam, and the masturbator is regarded as a transgressor. Allah, the Exalted, says (what means): {But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors.} [Quran 23:7]
However, it is not incumbent upon you to perform ghusl for janabah just because you thought about masturbating as long as no semen was discharged. Moreover, shaving your pubic hair has nothing to do with performing ghusl and is not obligatory at the time of ghusl. All of what you are currently doing regarding ghusl and shaving your pubic hair is neither necessary nor obligatory upon you; these are merely ill thoughts. Therefore, you should remember Allah, the Exalted, and frequently supplicate and implore Him, especially at times when supplications are most likely accepted. You should preoccupy yourself with doing what benefits you in the life of this world and the Hereafter. You should be heedful of any spare time because it calls for ill thoughts and helps Satan haunt you with his whisperings. We ask Allah, the Exalted, to safeguard you from them.
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Post by questa on Jul 24, 2017 0:16:34 GMT
And not only that but you will go blind and grow hair on the back of your hands so everyone can see what you do. (You could buy a liver from the butcher's shop).
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Post by kerouac2 on Aug 24, 2017 21:11:47 GMT
Warning: beware of extortion in the Paris metro system
Aug 24, 2017, 12:31 PM
I had a lovely week in Paris, until the last day, when I was extorted by Paris Metro Officers. I had gotten on the metro at Rue Saint-Maur using a pre-paid ticket, transferred to Line 4 at Reaumur Sebastopol, and transferred to RER B Line at Chatelet Les Halles, going towards Antony. I went through turnstiles at each interchange, and when I got to Chatelet Les Halles the ticket I had worked, and there was no additional turnstile or sign that indicated that I needed to buy another ticket for the RER. When I arrived at Antony, and went towards the OrlyVal train line, about six officers were stopping all the tourists at a bottleneck and asking to see their tickets. I produced my ticket, but was told “No, that is the wrong ticket. You must pay a €35.00 fine, right now.” I protested that I was a tourist, that I had made a mistake, that I would have been glad to have paid for the ticket, would be glad to return to Chatelet Les Halles and purchase a ticket, but no, nothing was acceptable except that I produce money (or a credit card) immediately. They said that I should have known that I needed to purchase a ticket at the machines in Chatelet Les Halles. I said that it was unfair, and I would not pay it, and was told that they would call the police and hold me there until I missed my flight (everyone on the OrlyVal is going to the airport). They had no interest in explanations, only in collecting money. They were rude and condescending. I finally capitulated and paid them. I do believe that tourists are being intentionally targeted, and extorted (and yes, I did feel very threatened). It would have been easy to make sure that people getting on the RER B train knew that they needed an additional ticket, but the Paris metro has instead chosen to charge high fines to tourists. I ended up feeling angry, and like I had been robbed. It ruined what had up to that point been a nice trip. Instead of leaving Paris and remembering the lovely museums, the great food, and the outstanding architecture; I will remember being cheated by the metro (a government agency).
Afterwards I looked on the internet, and found a posting about a very similar situation in the Paris metro from April 2013, so this has been occurring for quite some time. The post stated that the US Department of State was mentioning it as an issue for tourists. I think that they should do so again.
I have traveled in 60+ countries, using the metro in most of them, and never had anything remotely similar happen. I do not think that the Paris metro should be allowed to rip off tourists and get away with it.
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Post by patricklondon on Aug 25, 2017 11:45:13 GMT
There's always one, that thinks it's targeted at them. We get it even with native users ("I only made a mistake!" - yes, and the penalty for making a mistake is £80 here - if they thought you were doing it with deliberate dishonesty, you'd be up before the courts and might face a massive fine or even imprisonment for repeat offenders). My blog | My photos | My video clips"too literate to be spam"
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Post by kerouac2 on Aug 25, 2017 12:44:55 GMT
My favourite thing was using the word "extortion" for having to pay a fine.
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Post by kerouac2 on Aug 26, 2017 17:47:29 GMT
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Post by whatagain on Aug 27, 2017 10:54:16 GMT
didn't Trump say that London had full areas under Shariah law ? Must be a tweet from our Donald...
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Post by whatagain on Sept 5, 2017 15:55:39 GMT
From Fodors 'We were unable to exit a train at our stop. No one would let us through. Is there some unwritten rule about exiting trains in a certain way? We are in Cassis now but leaving on train again tomorrow. ' I managed to make a non sarcastic answer. Learning in progress... Last I saw something about as stupid I wrote 'OP is a troll or stupid' whihc was not nice. Some people should not be allowed to travel. When I am so stupid as to do something like that, I don't post about it. That is why I think these posts belong to trolls. Or should. The alternative is frightening but explain the numers of Trump's supporters
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Post by kerouac2 on Sept 5, 2017 16:05:32 GMT
If you want a more serious forum than Fodor's, you might want to check out www.flyertalk.com -- but I must warn you that they are not very humorous, although on the plus side, most of the people know what they are talking about since many of them are in the airline industry.
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Post by kerouac2 on Sept 22, 2017 18:20:05 GMT
I am simply fed up with threads of the sort 'I want to live like a local in Paris, will rent an illegal apartment because I don't care about the laws of Paris, close to all the attractions, will go with a Uber because that is what I do at home, but want to know how much it costs from CDG to my hotel (and no, I won't give the address). Btw, will it be safe at 9 30 pm because at home I have a gun but cannot take it to Paris and I have read it is full of refugees, immigrants and must avoid all the no-go zones. I want to make a reservation in a restaurant where they speak english and serve greek food, where I will tip because I do at home and oh I'm allergic to nuts and gluten and will it bother the restaurant to give me the menu but I want to change the falafel with a pizza and the slouvakis for a hamburger. After that I need to take my meds that I have to smuggle at the customs but have not enough so please tell how me how to buy some more, and no I don't need you to tell me I should not take it, I know better. Finally I need to go to Helsinki via Timbuctu because I have to use my miles.
And obviously if you comment for the humpteenth time that you find it stupid or tell OP to look into a book, you'll get some guys saying you're snarky.
Bref, I have had enough, there is nothing new and we keep answering the same questions formulated more and more lazily by posters who hardly acknowlege and never return.
And there are too many guys who just want to pick a fight, probably because they are bored to death with their life and are armchairs travelers telling the same stuff over and over. And I don't find it funny anymore to get into these fights.
So yes I am mean but look at what happened to my thread about GI soldiers as US tourists, it degenerates whilst it had a potential for nice happy or 'cool' stories.
So sure, I am snarky and mean but I am bored and I realize that I take more pleasure reading a book than coming to this forum.
When on top of that I'm told we have to restrain ourselves ad stay focused on travel related issues, well I don't find it fun to stay focused - if you want such a forum go to Rick Steve and if you want to say stupid things that are taken for words of the evangil than go to TA.
As for me, I still have one life left but will use it very carefully and will stop posting from my Iphone when traveling - I am sure it is so much better to post from home after googling than from the lounge of an airport.
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Post by whatagain on Sept 22, 2017 20:14:15 GMT
This guy is nuts. But boy oh boy, I feel strangely free... from negative energy.
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Post by kerouac2 on Sept 22, 2017 21:25:01 GMT
I'm glad. I thought you would like that one.
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Post by kerouac2 on Oct 6, 2017 18:39:07 GMT
Sidewalk cafes. Do they serve beer?
Oct 06, 2017, 2:11 PM
We are coming to Paris for the first time to celebrate our 35th Wedding Ann. We don't drink wine only beer. Is beer hard to come by at sidewalk cafes? Thank you, Gwen
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Post by bixaorellana on Oct 6, 2017 23:13:12 GMT
I thought I would die without beer in Paris. Why does that city even exist?!
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Post by kerouac2 on Oct 24, 2017 4:31:58 GMT
Question:
Why are tattoos banned in Islam? No they don't affect health, nothing will happen to you if you get a little tattoo. Also, if it affects Tahaarah, that is not true. Does God Almighty care about a little centimeter of dotted skin?
Fatwa:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.
You have to know that Allah is All-Wise in His Legislation and Decree; His Words are The Truth, and His Rulings are Just. Allah Says (what means): {And the Word of your Lord has been fulfilled in truth and in justice.} [Quran 6:115]. All that Allah has Legislated is of Complete Wisdom. Allah has made some things lawful because they are very beneficial, and has forbidden other things because they are very harmful.
However, a human being might not know the reason behind all this. The evidence about the ignorance of a human being is that he constantly explores and invents things that he was unaware of in the past. Therefore, it is an obligation on the Muslim to submit himself to Allah's Decree as Allah Says (what means): {It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision…} [Quran 33:36].
The first thing that can be said about the wisdom of forbidding tattoos is that it is confirmed that the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) forbade it and it is a revelation from Allah as the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) does not speak of his own desires. There is no harm if after believing and acknowledging the truth and acting upon Allah's Order and upon the narrations of the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) to seek the wisdom behind such prohibition. Imam Al-Bukhari may Allah have mercy upon him reported that Abu Juhayfah may Allah be pleased with him said: "The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) cursed those ladies who practice tattooing and those who get themselves tattooed."
Among the wisdoms that the scholars may Allah have mercy upon them have mentioned is that having tattoos is considered as changing the creation of Allah, and in some narrations the following addition has been mentioned "…whereby they change Allah's creation." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim] In addition to this, having a tattoo subjects the body to pain without a preponderant need or benefit and this is forbidden.
Finally, tattoos do not affect the purity of a person as they are under the skin and do not prevent water from reaching the skin.
Allah Knows best.
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Post by kerouac2 on Oct 24, 2017 18:23:40 GMT
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Post by onlyMark on Oct 25, 2017 13:48:00 GMT
"We have flown all around the world, especially over the last 15years when security levels have heightened, with many major airlines and, thusfar, have never had locks removed - until our return via EasyJet from Gatwick to Alicante a few weeks ago.
Of course, EasyJet simply quote their T's & C's - denying responsibility for all the usual accoutrements - feet, handles, locks etc. etc..
We accepted the risk that the locks, handles, feet etc. may be accidentally damaged – but not deliberately removed without our prior knowledge or consent.
If there is any genuine reason why someone requires access to our cases, e.g. something unusual appears on an X-ray scan which requiresinvestigation, surely we should be notified over the airport P.A. system and given the opportunity to be present when our cases are opened, instead of just stealing our locks without our knowledge.
As a point of principle, I'm now pursuing Gatwick airport who only decided to investigate when I sent a post via Facebook saying I intend to expose this outrageous behaviour to as many people as possible as it is an infringement of our rights."
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Post by kerouac2 on Oct 25, 2017 13:57:45 GMT
I quickly learned to never put a lock on my bag when flying in or out of the United States. I would find my bag upon arrival with no lock and a little note from the security people inside. I always had the habit of carrying some tinned items back and forth and that is of course what did me in. On later trips, I put all of the tinned goods on top so that they would find them instantly when they opened the bag.
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Post by kerouac2 on Oct 25, 2017 14:10:04 GMT
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Post by kerouac2 on Dec 2, 2017 16:41:53 GMT
Safe district for US visitors
Dec 02, 2017, 10:21 AM
We will be visiting Paris in October. What areas are the safest for US visitors ?
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