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Post by questa on Mar 12, 2017 13:28:43 GMT
I think it was the "Not with a bang but a whimper" atmosphere which hung over our group that saddened me most. This was a bunch of mighty women. Several raised families while working in developing countries, learnt other languages and wrote or translated texts for use in the plight of women and children's health issues. Most of us have travelled to strange places and fought strange diseases, adopted strange dress and customs and used local transport while the NGO's nurses had 4wd cars and air-conditioned houses. We wouldn't swap a bit, it is just the way it is ending. Maybe we will have a party and then move on.
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 12, 2017 16:29:34 GMT
Oh Questa, I am very happy about the good results for your best friend and for your other friend's daughter, but over all that is just so very sad, especially with the prospect of losing a close friend to a cruel disease.
The "not with a bang but a whimper" feeling is all too understandable right now, but perhaps with the passing of the next several months you all can look back on this year as your group's annus horribilus and be able to psychologically regroup for a get-together next year.
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Post by questa on Mar 12, 2017 23:03:27 GMT
Thank you all for your support and acknowledgment. I'm feeling brighter today...I get the blues when winter is approaching. Hey Mossie, Which number is that...manufacturers #, asset #, inspection #, issue #, correction of issue # (See triplicate papers for report # 2358 re incident) or the number they first thought of ?
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Post by tod2 on Mar 13, 2017 14:22:53 GMT
It is not nice to go through so much sadness at our age Questa. Happy about your friend - that is a major success story when cancer is beaten! Yes, old age is not for sissies. Just this morning thinking of my old mum and how spritely she was at my age. If she had any aches and pains which I seem to get daily now, she did not show it. I am not looking forward to the next innings....wasn't the cricket exciting! Even if it was only NZ vs SA
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Post by lagatta on Mar 13, 2017 16:26:09 GMT
Questa, I guess winter approaching can be depressing even though overall, your country has fairly to very mild winters. Yes, I know it is a huge country, but except in the mountains does any of it get severe winter weather?
I'm sorry about the problems your set has encountered, but am glad that there were a couple of recoveries. Way back in 1996, the year Renzo was born, I lost three close friends in the same month…
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Post by Kimby on Mar 13, 2017 17:28:43 GMT
When it rains it pours!
It's not enough that we have REAL traumas in our life right now, with Mr. Kimby's mom rehabbing from surgery to repair her hip which she broke in a fall 2 weeks ago. And that BOTH of our 17-year old cats are trying to die with separate terminal illnesses (cancer and renal failure).
Now a buyer has come forward with an offer on MILs condo in Wisconsin which Mr. Kimby has been trying to sell for most of a year, and they want to close in 30 days! That would require us to leave our cats at a vet hospital (or euthanize them!) and make an unplanned trip to Milwaukee to empty the condo of furnishings and personal possessions, truck it all up north to the lake condo where we'd hoped to swap out some less desirable furnishings, Goodwill or consign the rest, attend the closing, fly home and then fly down to Florida to be with MIL when she leaves rehab.
BUT MIL may not be able to return to her independent-living apartments, so would have to move -with our help - to an assisted living suite. Or maybe they'll keep her in nursing care. Either way, we'd be cleaning out her apartment and disposing of another houseful of possessions and furniture.
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Post by tod2 on Mar 13, 2017 17:54:24 GMT
Kimby, dear heart. This may seem cruel but I have been through this with my old 18 year old cat Tiger. He had been bitten in a fight and I let the vet treat him but in actual fact it was so infected I should have let him go to the big kitty in the sky. I was so attached I could not do it and the shock came to me when I saw him collapse and gasp and shake in his dying moments. I have never forgiven myself for letting him suffer like that.
They have had a good life, and deserve above all else, a good death. I am thinking of you in this very difficult decision time. It is not easy unless your vet helps you. My vet came to my house to put my last little dog to sleep. I was well prepared that day and the vet allowed me to hold him as he gave him a tranquilizer, but after 15 minutes asked me to leave him alone with String-Fellow-Hawk. When he called me back my doggie was enclosed in the blanket I provided. My gardener lifted him off the table and placed him in the little grave we had prepared earlier. It was all over in 30 minutes. My heart was sad but happy he was at peace.
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Post by Kimby on Mar 13, 2017 19:01:48 GMT
Tod said "They have had a good life, and deserve above all else, a good death."
Agreed, Tod. We took "the last visit to the vet" with our 20-yr old kitty 17 years ago, just before getting Mo & Mia. Though saddened by their diagnoses, they are both doing well in our care and I had hoped we would have 6 weeks in which to let things play out.
Now this dam offer on the Milwaukee condo...
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 13, 2017 19:56:52 GMT
Kimby, I hope this isn't sticking my nose in too much, but since you brought up the whole quandary of your pets and the offer on your mother-in-law's condo, here goes: First of all, take one thing at a time, trying not to anticipate things that might never happen. My suggestion is that you stay home with Mo and Mia while Mr. Kimby goes to Milwaukee. Now we are entering the murky waters of what someone else can/can't/doesn't wish to afford, which has caused so much trouble on anyport lately. To wit: Mr. Kimby hires professional movers and packers. Everything in his mother's house goes to the lake condo where you can deal with it when there are fewer demands on your time and psyches. moving.tips/packing-tips/professional-packing-services/Mr. Kimby either flies home or down to Florida, whatever is called for at that time, and you all proceed from there. Your not flying to & from Milwaukee would not only be nicer for the kitties, but would help defray the cost of the packer-movers. That's my 2¢ worth ~ feel free to tell me to butt out.
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Post by questa on Mar 14, 2017 0:32:27 GMT
Gotta lot of smarts from that 2 cents worth, Kimby. It is the pointy end of decision-making time now. If you write down every different option...ridiculous, impossible and all, then start eliminating each one , it seems to clarify the process. Good luck with it all.
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Post by Kimby on Mar 14, 2017 1:57:31 GMT
I sorta came up with Bixa's solution all by myself. I thought my offer to stay home with the kitties might make Mr. Kimby think real hard about accepting this offer since he'd really miss my help in Milwaukee. We are waiting to see what the offer actually is before moving on to step two. Also, we will get latest blood test results on kitties tomorrow, and that will tell us if Mia is turning around, and if Mo is going down.
I have a tendency to imagine all the worst-case scenarios in any situation. We'll see.
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Post by bjd on Mar 14, 2017 6:56:10 GMT
If you have been trying to sell the place for a year, it seems unreasonable to not go ahead with it. Can you not ask the buyers for an extra 2 weeks, explaining how complicated things are at the moment?
Bixa's plan sounds good to me. If you are not there to help sort or whatever you want to do together, have the movers put everything in a storage place until you have some time to deal with it.
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Post by whatagain on Mar 14, 2017 11:00:19 GMT
Lots of ambulance and police yesterday in our neighbourhood. We live in a dead end of a Y shape. So only about a dozen houses in the street. One ambulance to pick up our neighbour, cancer finally got him at age below 60 and another ambulance and two police cars at another house. What happened ? Our direct neighbour has her cancer coming back at her. 4th time. 3 different cancers. She looks very tired she was just through her last cancer. She is 75 and is a hell of a fighter. But if she dies she'll rejoin with her son who died aged 6. So not afraid of death.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 14, 2017 12:56:08 GMT
"Dead end" seems to be the correct term for sure!
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Post by Kimby on Mar 14, 2017 15:33:25 GMT
If you have been trying to sell the place for a year, it seems unreasonable to not go ahead with it. Can you not ask the buyers for an extra 2 weeks, explaining how complicated things are at the moment? Bixa's plan sounds good to me. If you are not there to help sort or whatever you want to do together, have the movers put everything in a storage place until you have some time to deal with it. We are not what you'd call "motivated sellers" in that we'd rather hold out for the right buyer and price than take less for a quick sale. The potential buyers ARE motivated because the husband is having double knee replacement and they need a place with single-level living and an elevator. But their offer was not a good one, demanding price cut and multiple concessions all favoring them at our expense. So this trauma may be relieved for now.
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 14, 2017 15:35:13 GMT
When I answered you earlier, Kimby, I was under the impression that you all had accepted the offer & that the sale was imminent (30 days!).
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Post by bjd on Mar 14, 2017 16:23:03 GMT
I too thought the place was finally sold. Of course, if you are not in a hurry and the terms are unfavourable, just leave it for now and concentrate on what's important.
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Post by Kimby on Mar 14, 2017 16:30:19 GMT
Sorry if my original post/rant was unclear.
Renting is one headache we fortunately can afford not to have. For one thing, the place is full of personal possessions including silverware, mink coat and jewelry, though I removed the good stuff during our last visit for security during realtor showings and open houses. Renting would NOT eliminate the need to empty the place.
The offer that was coming in was said by the realtors to be a "strong one". My definition of strong offer apparently differs from theirs. I'd consider a near full-price offer from a pre-qualified (or cash) buyer with few if any "conditions" and a June 30 closing date to be a good strong offer. Not one that wants to close in 30 days but reserves the right to pull out after 25 days if they don't get favorable financing or don't like the inspection report. Meanwhile, we'd have to list it as Under Contract, deterring other potential buyers, during the peak market period, AND go through the process of emptying it out IN CASE they decided to go through with it.
Fortunately Mr. Kimby and I are on the same page agaIn, after seeing the actual offer.
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Post by whatagain on Mar 14, 2017 17:05:06 GMT
We put both clauses. Financial is very common here - 95 percent of the cases and inspection is also logical. I put this myself when we visited a house full of stuff. We didn't want to have to cope with the stuff if vendor left what we considered junk in the house. We eventually bought the house.
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Post by Kimby on Mar 14, 2017 17:24:01 GMT
I'm not saying an inspection or qualifying for a loan are unreasonable expectations for a buyer. But the 30-day closing with a 25-day opt-out clause is not. IMO.
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Post by whatagain on Mar 14, 2017 18:06:26 GMT
Your house. Your call. One year no sale. A purchaser with conditions you don't like. Your decision.
About our neighbour who had the cops last night. The daughter in law jumped out of a window during the night. 9 months pregnant. She fell in bushes. Kid and mother are ok. Police is investigating.
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Post by Kimby on Mar 14, 2017 23:44:58 GMT
That's traumatic.
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Post by whatagain on Mar 15, 2017 8:22:21 GMT
Attempted suicide according to cops. Her husband has been just diagnosed a brain tumour and is said to not see 2018 and her father is terminally ill. Seems she slicked medicine then opened the window and jumped. Some people have problems.
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Post by tod2 on Mar 15, 2017 12:10:29 GMT
Very sad to have your mind so full of doubt and confusion.
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Post by questa on Mar 16, 2017 1:40:19 GMT
Your house. Your call. One year no sale. A purchaser with conditions you don't like. Your decision. Do you use i-ching, whatagain? the clarity and brevity of your replies would say so.
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Post by whatagain on Mar 16, 2017 8:35:55 GMT
Would do you mean ? i-ching ?
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Post by onlyMark on Mar 16, 2017 12:26:42 GMT
It's a Chinese gambling game. Usually involves guessing how many coins and/or the value of them that you have in your pocket. One player puts his hand in his pocket and rattles the coins while the other player, or a group, place bets and guess. The name is onomatopoeic and derives from the sound the coins make after declaring it is your turn. Hence "I ching".
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Post by onlyMark on Mar 16, 2017 12:27:20 GMT
I thought everyone knew that.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2017 13:28:05 GMT
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Post by questa on Mar 16, 2017 13:34:25 GMT
OnlyMark, you are being naughty again. The real i ching is not gambling etc. It may look like that from the outside but is a deep and meaningful book which is approached with respect as it helps users to understand things from their unconscious that may affect how they act etc I will write more to follow but thought I'd better correct things .
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