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Post by palesa on Feb 3, 2009 9:51:14 GMT
I am having a lot of difficult remaining positive at the moment, so I thought to start a thread where we can post good things, positive things, the silver lining so to speak.
I am glad that Monday is done with! I am planning a magical whirlwind, extravagant weekend, that will end up costing very little. I am loving Any Port in a Storm
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Post by happytraveller on Feb 3, 2009 11:48:10 GMT
My knee is already a lot better. The sun is out for a change ! January is over. Tell us more about your weekend plans palesa ! (Can I call you pal ? )
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Post by palesa on Feb 3, 2009 11:56:58 GMT
You can call me pal Weekend plans: The project I have been working on has involved a lot of travel for a team of about 50 people. As the Finance and Admin manager I selected the travel agent and have kept good relations. As a thank you, she has given me a free airticket. I have also accommodated a lot of people at a particular B&B in Durban and they have offered me a free weekend. I need to go to Durban for business at the end of the month, so I am giving my hubby my free ticket and he will meet me in Durban for Friday night, we will go to a lovely beachfront restaurant for dinner. The next day there are a few things we would like to do in Durban and we will fly back on Saturday afternoon.
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Post by happytraveller on Feb 3, 2009 12:33:17 GMT
Indeed, that sounds like a cheap but exciting weekend ahead. Yay, something to look forward to!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2009 20:01:34 GMT
The week is more than half finished. February is short but my salary is the same as for 31 days. Spring is just around the corner in the northern hemisphere.
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Post by auntieannie on Feb 4, 2009 20:59:30 GMT
Last weekend, the pagans celebrated Imbolc - end of winter, if I am not mistaken!
The Big Green Bus is coming to Devon on 28th March ;D
I am knitting again.
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Post by Wild on Feb 5, 2009 2:59:46 GMT
I'm going to see my sister and nephew tomorrow - added - they live far away from me ;D I just met up with a friend I haven't caught up with for ages I'm getting an adjustable table at work
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Post by repertoire on Feb 5, 2009 14:08:58 GMT
I will be seeing Barselona Barselona tonight at 19.50.
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Post by ninchursanga on Feb 5, 2009 14:45:10 GMT
I don't need to go to Immigrations on my own, even better the wheels of bureaucracy are being oild. I sorted out my office stuff, my teaching materials and all the admin.
But still....FFS, I have lost the last bits of positive thinking today. I have too much stuff and just looking at it I want to start crying. On the bright side I'll go and see "Vicky Cristina Barcelona" tonight. :-)
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Post by missalaska on Feb 10, 2009 16:48:54 GMT
This afternoon is the first time in a while that I've been able to sit down and chill in ages. I posted a R1 000 000 funding application this afternoon which I did by and large all on my lonesome and I am rewarding myself with tea biscuits, beer whatever.
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Post by palesa on Feb 12, 2009 14:30:53 GMT
I am getting a newer laptop tomorrow with XP instead of Vista, I am so happy I could ... well there are a number of things I could do, dance, drink, jump for joy
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Post by livaco on Feb 12, 2009 22:06:00 GMT
I am happy about a party we are having this Saturday. We started it 8 years ago, and have been doing it ever since. We call it our Tropical Fiesta.
I live in a place in the world that is very cold and gets a lot of snow. By February everybody is very sick of it all. So we pick a Saturday, and crank up the heat in the house and pretend we are somewhere warm. It has become quite the event. We had about 70 people last year (although not all at the same time). We go all out with the decorations, the food, the drinks, and the music. People wear their summer clothes or Hawaiian shirts etc., and we have a limbo contest, and just a whole lot of fun.
We've had the house to the upper 90's when it's been below zero outside (Fahrenheit). It won't be that cold out this weekend, though. Good thing we heat our house with wood and natural gas so we don't get too bad of a heating bill.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 12, 2009 22:38:16 GMT
Wow, Livaco ~~ that's one of the greatest ideas I ever heard! I wish I could send you limes, mescal, and papel picado:
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Post by Deleted on Feb 12, 2009 22:58:47 GMT
We are amidst the Carnival season here,lots of out of towners,old friends,lots of parties big and small. Weather has been gorgeous. Come on down!
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Post by livaco on Feb 12, 2009 23:01:11 GMT
bixa,
You got the whole idea of the party perfectly. Why don't you just hop on a plane and come on over? You can have mescal, or a mojito, or negro modelo or many other choices. We're also doing dishes like goat curry, Puerto Rican rice, coconut fish curry, chicken mole, mango salsa...
I love the picture of papel picado. I never knew what it was before. We have quite a large Mexican population here, especially around here where I work. Maybe I can buy some on my way home.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 12, 2009 23:54:28 GMT
*looks up from rummaging through wardrobe for party dress* Be right there!
You are in Wisconsin, aren't you? I just love that you all made a festival for a time of the year when it's cold and there are no official holidays.
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Post by livaco on Feb 13, 2009 4:03:57 GMT
Yes, I'm in Wisconsin where it's cold and snowy for many many months.
One good thing about having a party in February is that nobody ever has any other plans.
I've had Halloween and New Years parties, and get-togethers around Christmas and in the summer and none work as well for bringing in lots of people as this party.
By the way, I stopped at my local mercado on the way home from work. They said they only sell papel picado in September for Independence Day. I'll have to get some for next year's fiesta.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 13, 2009 4:24:36 GMT
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 28, 2012 19:49:49 GMT
Always time for some positive, cheery thoughts, right? The sun is shining, the birds are chirping, & we might get some rain later.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2012 20:53:42 GMT
After seeing my former colleague today and seeing how normal she was trying to appear -- in spite of a few cracks in her voice -- I really hope that her husband shows improvement soon.
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Post by mich64 on Mar 28, 2012 21:36:55 GMT
Brain injuries are incredibly complex and the healing process can be never ending. I know for myself, it took me about 3-4 months before my family even knew that I could understand my surroundings. I remember finally being able to say to my mother, "I okay", it was such a relief for me to help them. I was trying so hard to communicate and hoping they would not give up on me and was terrified of being left.
I hope she is able to stay positive and accept to be patient to let time heal the wound.
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 30, 2012 20:43:11 GMT
Mich, if this isn't being too nosy ~~ when you were first injured, how bad was the prognosis?
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Post by mich64 on Mar 31, 2012 16:06:03 GMT
I do not know Bixa, I would expect that they told my husband but it was never been discussed with me.
However, I have recently been told but my doctors and therapists that they do not expect any more improvements. Remaining deficiencies are being diagnosed as permanently disabled.
They have advised us to accept this and discontinue the therapies. It was not what I expected, I thought if I kept trying I would recover fully, but they explained to me that after this length of time it would be not be possible and unhealthy for me not to accept this.
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 31, 2012 17:09:36 GMT
Oh, Mich, I am shocked, particularly since you recently got the go-ahead to drive again.
You must feel discouraged right now. Do you suppose they somehow thought you had unrealistic goals, such as becoming an athlete again?
I have great faith, because of the short time I have known you from afar, that with or without formal therapy you will achieve a recovery that is acceptable to you.
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Post by mich64 on Mar 31, 2012 18:44:44 GMT
I am still allowed to drive, I do that well, better than I do walking.
My goals were never to be an athlete again, physically I am doing okay, my arm is better and my leg is okay but it will always need my attention. Being able to walk and climb stairs, that will always be my goal.
What I am disappointed in is my speech, it is an obvious disability and in my inability to understand abstract thought and speech I still only communicate concretely. I have to constantly ask questions watching television, going to the movies and interacting socially is especially confusing. I require assistance sometimes to communicate on this board.
Positively, I can drive, I am in good general health, I can maintain my home, enjoy being with family and friends and travel because I am fortunate to have the assistance of my husband. If he dies before me, I will require a guardian and care.
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Post by bjd on Apr 1, 2012 6:52:27 GMT
Mich -- I think doctors have been known to be wrong, or at least pessimistic. On this board you certainly sound just fine.
Perhaps just working at things on your own or with your husband and friends and family you will make progress in speech and abstract thought.
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Post by bixaorellana on Apr 1, 2012 15:26:32 GMT
I have to echo what Bjd said.
And from reading all your intelligent, informed, well-reasoned, well-phrased, humorous, and sensitive comments throughout this forum, it seems to me that your fine brain will eventually get you to where you want to go in terms of speaking and interacting.
I would think that learning how to speak fluidly again would take more time over-all than retraining yourself physically. And you are probably making progress in it every day without necessarily noticing that you are.
Perhaps in the future, if you remain unsatisfied with your progress, you can convince a doctor to assign you a new therapist.
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Post by mich64 on Apr 1, 2012 15:51:29 GMT
Thank you ladies for your support and encouragement. I will remain positive and continue my cognitive and physical exercises.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2012 17:41:17 GMT
I feel the same way -- doctors obviously do not want to give false hopes, but there have been lots of cases where determined people have continued to improve far beyond what was ever thought possible. I think that the fact that you want to continue to improve makes it obvious that you can improve.
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Post by mich64 on Apr 1, 2012 19:34:25 GMT
I will continue to challenge myself. My mother was devastated and my husband has told me she is afraid that I will regress. I can not talk to my family about this yet, I am confused. Doctors and therapists instructing me to accept this and my family insisting that I do not believe them. We have all accepted their treatment methods for almost 6 years, why do they question their diagnosis now?
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