chronic bronchitis and unhealthy life style
Mar 2, 2015 8:51:53 GMT
Post by rikita on Mar 2, 2015 8:51:53 GMT
mr. r. is suffering from a chronic bronchitis for a while now, currently it is turning acute again and he is coughing painfully all the time and generally in pain ... the thing is, his life style is not exactly healthy and anything i say usually leads to him being angry at me, and it all makes me worry quite a bit. one thing is, that he doesn't really go to the doctor until it is really bad, in part because there is a lot of pressure at his job to not be off sick too often, so he tends to work and and instead be sick on the weekends ...
else - i just googled (i realize the internet isn't always reliable, and obviously can't replace a doctor, but i think it can still give some information) and it confirmed a lot of things i suspected: he should see a specialist rather than just his gp, he should do more sport (he always claims he is too exhausted and does not believe me that some physical activity might actually help), should not always be in closed, heated rooms (he doesn't allow me to open the bedroom windows in winter, as he fears he might get sick from being cold), should not smoke at all (he stopped smoking, but continues with smoking marihuana, which he mixes with tobacco, and i think he increased the amount to get some nikotin still), and should drink a lot, preferably herbal teas (his favorite drink is pepsi, and he drinks some water, but altogether i think under a litre per day) etc.
i realize teas and fresh air won't cure him, but on the other hand i have the impression the medication he gets mainly keeps down the symptoms of when the bronchitis gets acute, but he doesn't get better in general, and i think a healthier life style would help him ...
the problem is - as i said, he gets annoyed when i try to say any of this, and i realize that as his wife, telling him these things does often come across as nagging, and i don't always manage to be as diplomatic as i can be, and he thinks it is his concern, not mine. but of course his health problems effect me too, in various ways ...
so well, i suppose the purpose of this post was in part to get this off my chest ... and in part to hear how any of you here might deal with a partner who you think is not doing enough to be healthy (or also to hear the perspective from the other side, maybe, if your partner is nagging you about your health) ... and maybe also if someone has tips how to get better.
might cross post this on some other forum (just in case someone sees it there and wonders), not sure yet ...
else - i just googled (i realize the internet isn't always reliable, and obviously can't replace a doctor, but i think it can still give some information) and it confirmed a lot of things i suspected: he should see a specialist rather than just his gp, he should do more sport (he always claims he is too exhausted and does not believe me that some physical activity might actually help), should not always be in closed, heated rooms (he doesn't allow me to open the bedroom windows in winter, as he fears he might get sick from being cold), should not smoke at all (he stopped smoking, but continues with smoking marihuana, which he mixes with tobacco, and i think he increased the amount to get some nikotin still), and should drink a lot, preferably herbal teas (his favorite drink is pepsi, and he drinks some water, but altogether i think under a litre per day) etc.
i realize teas and fresh air won't cure him, but on the other hand i have the impression the medication he gets mainly keeps down the symptoms of when the bronchitis gets acute, but he doesn't get better in general, and i think a healthier life style would help him ...
the problem is - as i said, he gets annoyed when i try to say any of this, and i realize that as his wife, telling him these things does often come across as nagging, and i don't always manage to be as diplomatic as i can be, and he thinks it is his concern, not mine. but of course his health problems effect me too, in various ways ...
so well, i suppose the purpose of this post was in part to get this off my chest ... and in part to hear how any of you here might deal with a partner who you think is not doing enough to be healthy (or also to hear the perspective from the other side, maybe, if your partner is nagging you about your health) ... and maybe also if someone has tips how to get better.
might cross post this on some other forum (just in case someone sees it there and wonders), not sure yet ...