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Post by gringalais on Feb 12, 2009 16:29:16 GMT
Do you guys know someone like this?
My friend who is going to be my witness has always been very perceptive when it comes other people and is good at giving advice. It is really too bad she doesn't apply the same to her own life.
We went out to dinner with her last night. She had just broken up with her boyfriend of a year the day before, so that was a main topic of conversation.
I remember that when my ex and I broke up, while she was sympathetic, at the same point she said, that she honestly felt that it was for the best and I would be better off with someone who was more mature, responsible and would make me a priority. She was definitely right.
However, listening to her talk about why she broke up, and thinking of her past relationships, I realized she almost always dates guys like my ex. The guy she broke up with lived at home still and was at his parents' beck and call all the time. He had been out of work for most of the relationship, so she had to be the one to spend the money to go see him on the weekends since he lives in Viña del Mar. They had no privacy since he lives with his parents. Finally, they decided to buy a small apartment near where he lives to have a place to themselves when she visits, but he couldn't pay his part of the expenses so she had to rent it out. And on, and on.
She was saying she wants to find a guy who is more independent, has his act together and all, but she always says that and ends up with the same type. I have my fingers crossed that maybe it will sink in this time, she really deserves better.
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Post by palesa on Feb 12, 2009 16:40:32 GMT
*threadjack ~~~ sort of*
Does she approve?
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Post by gringalais on Feb 12, 2009 16:47:12 GMT
Yes, she gave me permission to get married. She said he has a good aura (she's into that kind of mystical stuff).
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Post by palesa on Feb 12, 2009 16:48:25 GMT
Not that we ever doubted it, but nice that he got the stamp of approval!
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Post by gringalais on Feb 12, 2009 16:50:40 GMT
Although given her choice in men, I am not really sure how much validity her stamp of approval has.
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Post by palesa on Feb 12, 2009 16:54:52 GMT
Note how I did not respond to your OP? That is because until I met my husband, I was pretty much like her. You did say that she has a good sense of character, she probably only uses it to it's full extent where her friends are concerned.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 12, 2009 17:40:54 GMT
"Do as I say, not as I do."
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 13, 2009 6:09:54 GMT
Gringalais, your friend is undoubtedly quite intelligent & insightful, but gets inmeshed with these guys because of some kind of basic attraction. By the time she realizes she's done the same thing again, she's in pretty deep. Let's just hope one day she'll develop the profound self-esteem needed to break that pattern.
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Post by gringalais on Feb 13, 2009 11:59:16 GMT
Note how I did not respond to your OP? That is because until I met my husband, I was pretty much like her. So what was it that kicked your butt into gear and made you change your ways? And can you send some to my friend? Bixa - good point, I think part of it is that she puts to much emphasis on looks and ends up going for guys that are attractive but often lacking in other qualities. We are picking up the rings today!!
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 13, 2009 17:31:12 GMT
Ooooo ~~ the rings!!! Pictures?
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Post by spindrift on Feb 13, 2009 20:37:19 GMT
This will be APIAStorm's first wedding!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2009 20:40:31 GMT
keep that prayer wheel spinning! (I reall DO love it,almost as much as B's shoes and M's kittie).
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Post by palesa on Feb 14, 2009 14:38:05 GMT
Gringa, I don't really know what it was, I guess I just reached a point where I was tired of kissing frogs, so I had to take a good long hard look at what I was doing wrong.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 14, 2009 15:34:04 GMT
Hey, frogs can be nice!
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Post by palesa on Feb 14, 2009 15:36:58 GMT
Some frogs are lovely, totally adorable, but some are poisonous. We know which one you are.
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Post by happytraveller on Feb 14, 2009 16:06:42 GMT
Only when they turn into a prince !
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