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Jan 28, 2010 20:58:54 GMT
Post by traveler63 on Jan 28, 2010 20:58:54 GMT
My biggest ones is I don't suffer fools easily. Wait; is that considered a trait??
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Feb 7, 2010 15:38:33 GMT
Post by Deleted on Feb 7, 2010 15:38:33 GMT
Working in closed quarters yesterday for umpteen hours dealing with the voting public, I don't know where to begin to recite some of the traits (mostly from my mother...) that emerged. Some good ,yes,some,well,will get back to you on this... Now I know why I prefer to garden for people rather than be a civil servant. JEEZ...
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Mar 21, 2010 9:23:33 GMT
Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2010 9:23:33 GMT
There is a woman that I see most mornings when I go out for an early walk. We exchange greetings and then possibly a comment on the weather. We can both agree when it's too cold or unpleasant. But,should it be a particularly lovely morning,she will invariably launch into a litany of negative comments about how the next day is going to be nasty,or,oh,you know this won't last. See that cloud over there,that's rain... I bring this up because it occurred to me that this is one of my mother's traits,and god help me should I ever,emulate it. I am going to try to alter my path that I walk to avoid her because she presses my button that badly. I have exhausted every positive tact there is.
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May 17, 2010 15:56:01 GMT
Post by Deleted on May 17, 2010 15:56:01 GMT
Am faced with far too many than I care to look at right now I'm afraid.
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May 21, 2010 13:49:23 GMT
Post by bixaorellana on May 21, 2010 13:49:23 GMT
The emoticon you used in that last post is very like the face I make when I look in the mirror and see one or both parents looking back at me.
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May 23, 2010 0:22:08 GMT
Post by Kimby on May 23, 2010 0:22:08 GMT
It's kinda scary when you start seeing your parents in the mirror. Not because you don't want to be like them, you just don't want to be as OLD as them!
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May 25, 2010 23:00:30 GMT
Post by Deleted on May 25, 2010 23:00:30 GMT
One of the things that I have had to learn to accept,with great difficulty,however,and refuse to take on as a trait,is,my mother's life long,tendency,(seems too light a word for...)to sweep things under the rug,make believe that things,sometimes horrible things, never happened.Family secrets,"we can't talk about that",I have come to learn,can do great damage to one's psyche in the long run. Perhaps,it was all she knew to do,and was the only way she knew how to deal with and survive. I refuse to live in that kind of denial and fear.It just eats away at one I find.
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May 26, 2010 11:03:23 GMT
Post by charlie on May 26, 2010 11:03:23 GMT
Bossy, horribly bossy, just like my mother.
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May 26, 2010 22:01:03 GMT
Post by paristraveler on May 26, 2010 22:01:03 GMT
I get impatient and squirmy when I try to go out to the "porch" of my building and read quietly and just enjoy the day when invariably one of the residents will come out and expect me to sit and listen to their endless tales of medical woes, people I don't know's medical woes, or just drone on endlessly about nothing. I bear it as long as I can, then I have to jump up and pretend that I need to go eat. I really miss just being able to sit outside in peace.
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May 26, 2010 22:18:29 GMT
Post by bixaorellana on May 26, 2010 22:18:29 GMT
I can identify with that, Paris. Years ago I read that people staying at a traditional Japanese inn simply pretended not to see other people when anyone was on the way to or from the bathrooms. So civilized! Really, what kind of conversation needs to be had in that circumstance anyway? Is the porch the communal area, or is there another place for gathering? Many people think it's okay to interrupt reading, on the assumption you can pick it back up at any time. Gad.
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May 27, 2010 13:25:32 GMT
Post by Kimby on May 27, 2010 13:25:32 GMT
I'm a packrat. Just like my Dad.
(And when I finally will have to disassemble my parents household after 60 years of living in one house, I will really have my hands full! If HE couldn't throw it out, how can I?)
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May 28, 2010 18:40:45 GMT
Post by paristraveler on May 28, 2010 18:40:45 GMT
I can identify with that, Paris. Years ago I read that people staying at a traditional Japanese inn simply pretended not to see other people when anyone was on the way to or from the bathrooms. So civilized! Really, what kind of conversation needs to be had in that circumstance anyway? Is the porch the communal area, or is there another place for gathering? Many people think it's okay to interrupt reading, on the assumption you can pick it back up at any time. Gad. The porch is it. There is a pavillion area down lower, but it's for smokers and trash-talkers. Yes, very few people in this building have any kind of an education, and to them, reading for pleasure is not in their make-up. A real conversation, where one person actually LISTENS to what the other person is saying, and responds appropriately is very rare. Most of the time it's just someone blathering on about absolutely nothing of interest to anyone else, and everyone else just sitting around, eyes glazed over with boredom. *Sigh* What a world.
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May 28, 2010 19:06:57 GMT
Post by bixaorellana on May 28, 2010 19:06:57 GMT
Maybe you could put headphones on when you want to read. You wouldn't have to have any sound coming through them, but they'd give you an excuse not to respond. Let's hope that some of the blatherers are just putting out signals that they'd enjoy some conversation and that there is gold in the dross.
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May 28, 2010 19:20:18 GMT
Post by Deleted on May 28, 2010 19:20:18 GMT
People who don't know me think that I have hostile eyes. I am often mistaken for a policeman (no offense to the policemen!). I will admit that I do look at people and events harshly while analyzing them.
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May 28, 2010 21:03:54 GMT
Post by paristraveler on May 28, 2010 21:03:54 GMT
So, let's have a picture of them, k2, and let us be the judge.
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May 29, 2010 3:12:50 GMT
Post by Jazz on May 29, 2010 3:12:50 GMT
dunno, Paris...this was the only photo Kerouac put online, in a remorseful mood (I think)...maybe he will have an update? .....heheheh.
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May 29, 2010 21:50:55 GMT
Post by paristraveler on May 29, 2010 21:50:55 GMT
OMG, that is the cutest thing I've ever seen!!! And I mean the cutest!!!
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Jun 7, 2010 21:39:01 GMT
Post by Kimby on Jun 7, 2010 21:39:01 GMT
Again, like my Dad, I squirrel away information. Meaning that I know just enough about most any topic to carry on a passable conversation with almost anyone.
Except with someone who never stops to take a breath between sentences, meaning it's never my turn.
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Jun 9, 2010 15:40:59 GMT
Post by bixaorellana on Jun 9, 2010 15:40:59 GMT
That is a really desirable trait, Kimby. People who can do that make life more pleasurable. I've witnessed conversations wherein one person will say for instance, "My hobby is making dolls from socks." Then instead of bringing up any number of things that could indicate at least a tenuous knowledge, thus interest, in the subject, someone else will say flatly, "I never liked dolls."
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Jun 9, 2010 16:56:43 GMT
Post by Kimby on Jun 9, 2010 16:56:43 GMT
(I've never liked dolls either, but would have asked the person if she'd made monkey dolls from those brown socks with white heels, like my grandma did....)
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Jun 15, 2010 0:35:51 GMT
Post by bixaorellana on Jun 15, 2010 0:35:51 GMT
Those sock monkey dolls always bring back an unfortunate memory. My grandmother's friend gave my son a sock monkey and I embroidered his name on the hat. One day, I was coming back from the dentist with my son in the child seat on the back of my bike. He fell asleep and upon arriving home we realized the doll was gone. I back and forward tracked, but we could never find it.
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Aug 10, 2014 12:32:56 GMT
Post by htmb on Aug 10, 2014 12:32:56 GMT
We all have our own way of doing things, relating to the world, and keeping some sort of order within our own circle of influence. Some of us cannot cope without a cup or two of coffee in the morning, while others detest talking on the telephone unless it's to loved ones or very close friends (this is one of my quirks). I'm interested to know what personality characteristics others have, even those things that might not be so good for us. Do sounds such as an air exhaust vent drive you so crazy you can't let one run for more than a couple if minutes, as is the case for me? Do you have a certain routine you follow for getting out of the house in the morning, and if you vary from it does it throw off your day? Do you thrive on alone time to recharge, or do you hate being alone? Maybe you don't THINK you have any individual quirks, but if you look hard enough, what do you see?
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Aug 10, 2014 12:51:52 GMT
Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2014 12:51:52 GMT
I don't know where to start...
Right off the top of my head I can safely say that I hate being tardy for anything and become really unnerved when others keep me waiting.
I get real frustrated when people do not put things back where they found them.
Most people know my huge disdain for leafblowers.
I have a habit which I'm making a concentrated effort to remedy of interrupting people when talking.
I know there are many, many others that will come to mind in due time.
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Aug 10, 2014 14:57:15 GMT
Post by htmb on Aug 10, 2014 14:57:15 GMT
Certainly a very good start to this thread, Casimira. I can relate to all of the above!
I am pretty much a classic introvert and process most information inside my head, rather than out of my mouth, making it sometimes difficult to be around extroverts for long periods of time. I function quite well in a work setting and, though I don't relish the idea if giving presentations to large groups, I do so as part of my job and it's just fine. However, I'm often uncomfortable in situations where I'm forced to make small talk with people I don't know about non-work related things. I suppose that makes me seem unfriendly or aloof at times. I also find that I'm exhausted after being in a work or close-knit situation where I have to talk and listen for extended periods. It is imperative that I have copious amounts of alone time later in order to regroup and recharge. I've learned this the hard way when traveling with dear friends. I get along fine with those who are similar and who don't have a need to fill the silence with constant chatter leaving me unable to think, but traveling with my extroverted friends without a break often leaves me, and them, frustrated and exhausted. Both my parents were major extroverts - gregarious, outgoing, friend-magnets - but they seemed to respect my personality style even though they never quite understood it.
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Aug 10, 2014 15:09:46 GMT
Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2014 15:09:46 GMT
Well, certainly ones work profession has a direct effect on how we act and respond. It can bring out the best and worst in us. When I was a clinical social worker,I had to be much more outspoken. I often miss it, but, whenever I think about going back, I need only remind myself of those final years. As a gardener, I have the luxury of not having to deal with the bureaucracy and day to day BS which led to my burnout. But, that being said, certain characteristics and quirks remain but are manifested in a different fashion.
Another one: I tend to smirk a lot and body language wise am an "easy read".
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Aug 10, 2014 16:05:35 GMT
Post by mich64 on Aug 10, 2014 16:05:35 GMT
An interesting and challenging topic htmb. I agree that ones work profession can affect individuals greatly and someone you knew 20 years ago can be very different then they are today because of it, in a positive or negative way.
I am told often that who I am now is very different from who I was before the injury so that is another effect of how our quirks, individuality personality and characteristics can change.
From what I understand from everyone before the injury I was extremely social, confident in my profession, talkative, witty, punctual, naïve and too eager. I would be the person in a group who would look for the one who was feeling uncomfortable and find a way to include them. I liked to arrange group activities for work or personal time, take up collections for charities, arrange Christmas parties, help with donations for the food bank and our Women's Shelter. What remains is that I am punctual, naïve and will arrange very small gatherings with close friends but I am beginning to be able to cope with larger family gatherings.
I too get frustrated when people do not put things back in place. Very sorry to say Casimira that we love our leaf blower, but that has to do with how we use it. We use it for blowing the snow off our stairs down to the house in winter, as there are about 60. We had to find a way to make the physical work easier as we have aged. Luckily for our neighbours there windows are closed in the winter so thankfully it would rarely disturb them.
Htmb, I would think a stranger would think I was aloof as well as I do not contribute to conversation when there is a stranger in the group, because I lack abstract thinking I often make mistakes. I also do not blink very often, I feel uncomfortable when people notice that and want to leave.
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Aug 10, 2014 16:25:16 GMT
Post by htmb on Aug 10, 2014 16:25:16 GMT
Mich, your story is such an inspiration and your sharing of the changes since your injury, and your progress, is so enlightening. Thank you for your openness. It does sound like you are continuing to make significant progress each and every day.
It always annoys me when people who don't know me think a pensive look means I'm irritated about something, when that's just me concentrating. I often buzz back and forth through my office building wearing my "focused face," not seeing much of what is going on around me. Those who don't know me well think I'm being aloof, when I'm actually just concentrating on the job at hand.
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Aug 10, 2014 16:56:18 GMT
Post by mich64 on Aug 10, 2014 16:56:18 GMT
I often ask my husband, "Would I have done that before?" "Would I have said that before?" His honesty, acceptance and assistance is how I cope, improve and enjoy my life. I am trying really hard not to concern myself with the reactions of people when they see me confused, anxious or scared. My husband reassures me that the actions of others are just the right that they have for feeling the way they do and to respect that we are all different as individuals. Keep your focus and keep being yourself htmb.
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Aug 10, 2014 17:04:11 GMT
Post by htmb on Aug 10, 2014 17:04:11 GMT
Okay, Mich, but this is probably the look on my face. Your husband sounds like a really great guy, Mich!
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Aug 10, 2014 17:15:38 GMT
Post by mich64 on Aug 10, 2014 17:15:38 GMT
That is okay htmb! This is usually me . My husband is an amazing person, very kind and compassionate. With some interesting/funny quirks.
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