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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 16, 2010 20:33:15 GMT
I was thinking about this earlier today, and maybe I shouldn't pose the question so baldly. Also, what may be a regular attitude in one generation could be considered repressed or outrageous in another.
I think I'd have to characterize myself as somewhat prudish, although maybe I'll revise that after hearing what everyone else has to say.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2010 20:47:20 GMT
You're not alone Bixa. I admit I can be a prude. In some ways I'm very old-fashioned, in other ways I'm not. It also depends I guess in who's company I'm in.
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Post by spindrift on Mar 16, 2010 22:29:55 GMT
I can safely say that I am not a prude.
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 16, 2010 22:32:49 GMT
Yeah, but is not being a prude safe?  |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2010 23:16:15 GMT
I am considered to be both a prude and a dangerous libertine by various people.
If somebody says "let's all get naked," no problem. If somebody says "let's all screw at random," problem.
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Post by rikita on Mar 17, 2010 0:07:39 GMT
i don't think i am a prude. i sometimes have problems estimating what is appropriate when (i mean, not getting naked in the street or stuff like that, but let's say remarks or jokes about sex in the wrong company) so i try to err rather at the side of caution, with varying results. might be more prudish than i used to be though, as i am not as interested in casual sex anymore as i used to be (not only because i am in a relationship)... i have one friend who might think i am because i lately tell him off for his constant remark about boobs, but i don't think that is prude of me, it's more that he is a bit too obsessed...
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2010 0:36:12 GMT
By definition the word,prude refers to "one who is excessively concerned with being or appearing proper,modest or righteous"(Mirriam Webster).
So,I guess, it would depend on the context of which the question is being asked.
It seems that the word often automatically takes on a sexual connotation.
In some matters,I am very much of a prude.
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 17, 2010 2:29:23 GMT
Hmmmm. I guess my impression of prude is not exactly the same as the dictionary definition.
Maybe for purposes of this discussion, prudishness could have more of a second meaning, since we are referring to ourselves. That would be an basic discomfort with certain art forms or conversational topics or actions. In other words, not an act we're putting on for others, but how we essentially react to certain things, whether or not we verbalize those reactions.
I think that's how we're all responding to the OP, anyway.
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Post by hwinpp on Mar 17, 2010 5:12:03 GMT
I'm a prude (in the conventional sense, not the dictionary sense), got a problem with that?  |
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 17, 2010 5:35:29 GMT
No. We can not discuss certain things together.  |
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Post by cristina on Mar 17, 2010 5:43:58 GMT
No. I am not. At least according to my definition. I like to think that I am open-minded, even if I decline to cavort in my birthday suit with strangers. My children, on occasion, may think otherwise.  That is, I am generally quite accepting of others' attitudes or interests and don't usually think of myself as judgmental. This is possibly in the eye of the beholder though.... |
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Post by onlymark on Mar 17, 2010 6:34:24 GMT
If somebody says "let's all screw at random," problem. Can you point me in the direction of this place, I think I want to go there. My SatNav can't seem to find it. It must have recovered well though from the War. There were a lot of bombs dropped there apparently. And by the way. If you ever need a job you need to head out to Jeopardy. Every day I seem to hear there are jobs in jeopardy. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2010 6:45:29 GMT
Mark, Paris has about 100 sex clubs, being the sex club capital of the world. Totally "respectable" people go there, including elected officials, famous celebrities, police officers, lawyers... It is the higher classes of society who are the most interested in libertine activities. People talk openly about going there and what they did there.
I have been to such places a few times, and they are not for me.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2010 6:50:19 GMT
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Post by spaceneedle on Mar 17, 2010 6:51:26 GMT
To me, prudes are generally people who are judgmental about what others do, and also controlling.
I don't care what other people do as long as they don't try to interfere in my life.
As for people into 'swinging', I have a relative that is involved in that lifestyle and just based on the limited stuff I've seen from that, it seems like more drama than it's worth. Among other things.
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Post by onlymark on Mar 17, 2010 7:12:13 GMT
Thanks for that k2. I've put my name down for 4th April when there is a "Soirée CHOCOLAT " it says.
Should be interesting.
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Post by spindrift on Mar 17, 2010 9:16:20 GMT
Why bring random group sex into the conversation as being relevant as to whether one is a prude or not? When I answered the question I meant that I'm not prudish with a one and only lover....  |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2010 9:32:48 GMT
I agree Spindrift. I think the topic if the OP confuses from the start because of the immediate association most people make when introducing the word 'prude'. So,I guess I am being a prude about the OP.  |
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Post by onlymark on Mar 17, 2010 9:54:54 GMT
When I originally read the title I somehow decided it said "Are you a prune?"
I wondered if anyone would admit to it.
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Post by bjd on Mar 17, 2010 11:48:01 GMT
Only when I stay in the water too long.
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Post by spindrift on Mar 17, 2010 13:56:00 GMT
*an excellent answer*
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 17, 2010 14:23:44 GMT
I think Spaceneedle hit on a good overall view of a prude -- someone who sets him/herself up as the morality police and is judgmental on that level.
If you see a really overweight guy in a Speedo and roll your eyes, you're making a fashion/aesthetic judgment. If you get all huffy about a fifteen year old girl dressed like her peers, you're being a prude. Agreed?
As I said in #7, the OP question is more about how we see ourselves.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2010 15:22:25 GMT
I think that the concept of "prude" has shifted to the sex angle over the years. "Puritan" covers the other meanings.
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Post by rikita on Mar 17, 2010 23:20:32 GMT
what if you roll your eyes at all fifteen year old girls? like, on principle?
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 18, 2010 1:43:13 GMT
Sometimes it's hard not to, but I can remember how adorable ( :  I was at that age. |
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Post by cristina on Mar 18, 2010 2:39:42 GMT
When I initially answered the question, I was thinking a bit broadly, but after the discussion about sex as part of the equation, I had to rethink this. Wikipedia, while not the gospel, does remind me that prude and puritan are related. And the first paragraph in the wiki entry for "prude" reads: "A prude (Old French/Sarah Emily Campbell prude meaning honourable woman)[1] is a person who is described as (or would describe themselves as) being concerned with decorum or propriety, significantly in excess of normal prevailing community standards. They may be perceived as being more uncomfortable than most with sexuality, nudity, alcohol, drug use or mischief."(underlining is my emphasis) I am all for mischief. Decorum within reason, I guess. Although this is rather hard to define too. I think I tailor my "decorum" to the situation. ie: work, vs. social setting, vs. "Mom" events. Which means I might feel a bit worried about the parent who arrives at school meeting dressed for a night at a bar (this would be out of character for my daughter's school), but otherwise would care less if that same person dressed the same way at a mixed social event. I am a prude (re: the wiki entry), about drugs, for the most part (although I confess that there was a time that I wasn't). Not so much a prude about marijuana and, in fact, support legalization. Not that I partake, but I think its time to move forward and.. well, I save that for another thread. Other drugs, no. Otherwise, I think my prudishness or lack thereof is pretty much situational. If it isn't interfering with my life, or my younger child's life (in an overtly influential way...as in best friend encouraging inappropriate behavior for a 15 year old), then I am not a prude. I am now very aware that I haven't worded this well. But this can be quite subjective, depending on the context. I can already envision at least 15 arguments with myself, started by me, as to why what I just wrote makes no sense. |
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Post by hwinpp on Mar 18, 2010 5:16:21 GMT
Again it all comes down to how you understand prude. For me it's mainly in the context of sex. I don't feel I need to discuss it with all that many people, so I consider myself prude.
Now, discussing alcohol, drugs or mischief is something I don't associate at all with my idea of 'prude' and I discuss this freely.
Anybody who objects to this is a prude!
;D ;D ;D
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Post by bixaorellana on Mar 18, 2010 5:54:58 GMT
I would say I also mainly associate the idea of prudery with sex. And because I consider some things too private to talk about or be told or to look at, that's why I say I'm somewhat prudish.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2010 7:06:20 GMT
"Straight-laced" is a good term as well that covers the non-sex items. You can be straight-laced about table manners or the way children should address adults.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2010 13:24:58 GMT
I've decided I'm not a prude after all. Nor am I straight laced. But I do have high morals in some ways. Not sure what that means....
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I was at that age.