Hw, the expression on your face is priceless!! Oh my gosh, that's hysterical. Look at the lady on the far right of the photo, who is immortalizing the moment with her camera. Oh, they're all really cracking up.
The ladies in the last pictures look as though they've been riding herd on the kids and are relieved the whole thing is finally coming to an end. Whew -- that was quite the production. Thanks so much for managing to get pictures even as you fulfilled your role as father of the groom. This was just great!
About 15 years ago, My very Irish cousin married a Chinese man (although both born and bred in NY). That was my first introduction to the Chinese or anything non-Western style of a wedding. The food at the groom's feast was fabulous. And yes, the wedding and the groom's feast occurred on the same day, in the same town.
Your comments about the blending of western ideals (or ideas) into a ceremony remind me of my brother's funeral in Vietnam. Not wanting to detract from wedding happiness on this thread, but there was a decidedly western influence in the dixieland jazz band that his Vietnamese family had accompany the funeral. This had nothing to do with his roots, but it made me happy nevertheless.
Most of my impressions of Asia are of large urban cities, which have westernized, a bit. But I know that just like in the US and elsewhere, there are communities within that ignore the prevailing chic. I really have enjoyed this thread for many reasons, HW. Not the least of which was your wonderful commentary.
A sumptuous thread, Hwin. The food looks delicious and I am intrigued by the ceremonies, the people, all of it. I can just see myself at the small coffee shop. The rituals are fascinating. The changes of clothing in #22 are beautiful, especially the 5th photo down, burnt orange and old gold lace. Interesting about their use of white (the pro western choice), it’s my least favorite. Further down, in #29 is a shot of the two gorgeous young women carrying vases of pinky/orange roses which I like very much. Most of my life has been involved with fabrics, colors and costumes and I loved this thread. Hmmm…do you have a second career filling in as the ‘husband’ at weddings?
I’ll probably be accused of ‘excessiveness’ , but your thread is rich, textured and vibrant. Thank you!
I could imagine it might have to do with fertile/ infertile seasons and this could be a very old belief, pre- dating the arrival of Buddhism or Hinduism here. The neighbouring countries don't follow the seasons.
Nowadays I think it's also partly just practical thinking.
In the countryside (and even in PP), weddings are held in tents and not in specially built buildings. Rains would just wash out the party.
The bride and groom offer the 'parents' beetle nut, we take the leaf and then are supposed to symbolically fill it with powdered shell, areca nut and some tobacco. This is folded and supposed to be chewed slowly. I didn't get the last part though and when every leaf had been filled and folded I took a bite out of it and started chewing... only then did I realize I was the only one actually eating it,