Making men cry

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I find this article from BBC News very interesting, because it shows what a wide variety of films can set the tears off. And I'm sure that women sometimes cry at things other than the 'traditional' movies that are made to purge their tear ducts.

I could probably make a list as long as my arm of movies that have made me cry, because I usually go to the cinema alone and can let loose at will as long as the place is not too packed.

Analyzing what sets me off, though, tends to make me think that I cry more easily due to a scene of intense happiness after great complications or hardship, while I can watch people die with a dry eye.

[bixaorellana]

That is interesting, and mostly unexpected.

This reminds me of watching Beaches on video with my husband. At the end, I said, "What a bunch of tedious, nauseatingly manipulative, pukily emotional crap!" That's when I noticed he was sidling out of the room with glistening eyes, rushing for a kleenex.

[joanne28]

I can't watch anything with animals dying in it because I'm destroyed.

I wailed through the death bed scene in "Steel Magnolias". I knew nothing about the movie at all & went to it because it looked like a comedy from the promos. It was - for the first half.

In the movie "Harry and Tonto" there are three scenes that make me cry - the scene when Harry's friend dies, when he and his daughter are walking on the beach and, of course, when Tonto dies.

The scene in "Sophie's Choice", when she chooses, is one of the most powerful moments in cinema. I have only watched it once as it was so incredibly intense. I still recall it vividly, even though I watched it at least 25 years ago. I don't know if I can ever watch it again.

I even cried at the end of "Annie Hall" but I saw it with my ex while we were in the process of breaking up. We had a dead shark. He cried too.

I realize I'm off base here - sorry, I tend to digress.

[bixaorellana]

I got all excited when I saw the title of this thread, because I thought it was going to be a how-to manual. Imagine my disappointment when I realized it was about movies.

[joanne28]

Yes, it did have possibilities, didn't it?

[cigalechanta]

My late husband cried when we had to put out dog to sleep. since then, I seem to cry at both happiness and sad vids or reading

[joanne28]

My stepfather cried like a baby when he had to put his dog down. My mother couldn't understand that he cried more than when his father died. I told her it was because the relationship was so much easier.

[bixaorellana]

Note how women keep posting in this thread, trying to keep it aloft in the hope that the men will come in here and give us the straight poop on what moves them at the movies.

[fumobici]

If I must ;D

I've lost the game face I had when younger. I well up watching movies altogether too easily now. I think the happy sappy stuff gets to me almost more than the sad stuff.

You may now point and giggle.

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I just had to think of this thread this week after seeing the Japanese animé movie Giovanni's Island, basically because at the 9am show when I saw it, there was not a single woman in the room, and when it ended, I heard several people blowing their noses while I was wiping my eyes. Although tears spring forth much more often than you would imagine when I go to the cinema, even I had to blow my nose once I had left the place.

As is almost always the case with these Japanese animé films, the story is based on reality and generally a very sad moment in Japanese history. This story begins the day WW2 ended. Villagers in a fishing village of the Kuril islands listen to the emperor making his speech of surrender. This is obviously sad for them because they never understood very much about why the war existed in the first place, but in any case Japan has lost and it is feared that "the Americans are going to come and make us their slaves."

The main characters are two young boys named after the characters in their father's favourite book Night on the Galactic Railway -- Giovanni and Campanella, although their names have been japanified to Jinta and Kanta. They are living happily on the island of Shikotan in spite of the fears of their father and grandparents, but all of a sudden there is an invasion -- not by the feared Americans but by the Soviets. The troops are quite scary, and everyone's life is disrupted immediately. Within a few months, Russian families are moving to Shikotan. The family is forced out of their home and have to live in the barn next door. The school remains open, but the good part is taken over by the Russians while the local children have to learn their lessons in a hovel.

The Russians are not shown to be bad people. They just arrived and took over. Before long, Giovanni becomes friends with a little Russian girl who is living in his house -- Tanya. Things are going not so bad before long, and the Russian and Japanese children are getting along just fine, and the adults approve. But then the Russians decide to deport the local population, and they are all hauled off to some frozen internment camps in Russia.

Note: this movie is NOT for children!

Various things happen, people die... And then we come to the present. The fact is, the Kuril islands are still under Russian control even though Japan has never given up its claim to them. After all of these years, Giovanni/Jinta, now an old man, returns to the island of his childhood. He sees a little blonde girl who is the spitting image of Tanya, his childhood friend. It is her granddaughter, and her mother tells Jinta that Tanya died just last year.

He plunges again into his memories, particularly of the wonderful magical train of the galactic railway that took him away at times when life was too difficult or sad.

Oh, these movies tear your heart out! Men cannot resist, but apparently most women never see them.

[kerouac2]

[questa]

If I welled up gracefully at highly emotional scenes, and in between actually saw the movie, I might watch one now and then. As it is I am a sobbing, nose-blowing wreck almost from the opening music of the film. People turn in their seats to see who is howling (almost).

Same goes for movies on TV except here I have the slight advantage of leaving the room to fold the laundry or change the dog's water bowl or some other suddenly urgent task.

Like K2 and Fumobici happy endings make me sob and even comedies run the risk of tears. So I don't watch movies...simple as that. Good murder mysteries with no emotion, just the nasty person getting bumped off then it is all about "the little grey cells" are the main things I watch on TV

[whatagain]

I cried at the movie 'la vita e Bella' and that was probably the only one if the BBC list that made me cry.

Can't remember last I cried with another movie.
Unfortunately I don't cry much anymore.
Didn't even cry when burying my last cats and dog.

Rain man made me cry too.

[rikita]

i cry or at least choke up quite easily, usually at the normal scenes meant for that. in the last years, anything to do with children or parents also makes me choke up, even commercials. like those silly mother's day commercials, even though i think they are kind of stupid, they still make me choke up. oh, and a couple of years ago i sang the little drummer boy to a. and was surprised that it made me choke up, too. same thing with some of the stories i read to her. but ok, this is about movies. last movie i watched was "cars", i didn't cry there, but i think i choked up a bit ...