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Post by cheerypeabrain on Mar 15, 2019 14:53:04 GMT
Whatagain you and your family have had a very difficult time haven't you? I really hope that your neighbour's son recovers and gets the help he needs to sort his life out. Hope that you are recovering well too xxx
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Post by mich64 on Mar 15, 2019 17:02:17 GMT
Whatagain, I really hope you neighbour recovers and is receptive to on going care. You and your family have been through quite a lot recently, wishing you a return to full health and energy and happiness to all.
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Post by kerouac2 on Mar 15, 2019 17:09:55 GMT
I am wondering when you will be returning to work if you have not already done so. That's because I hope to see you again in Paris before long.
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Post by cheerypeabrain on Mar 15, 2019 17:37:56 GMT
On a more trivial note..our tv packed up this morning (I think it had just had enough of Brexit tbh). 3 days after the year warranty expired. According to the electronics chap (who just fixed Russell's computer) it's in an update loop. So Jeff's rigged up the much smaller set that he uses for his PC in the living room. I much prefer it tbh...The electronics shop is making a bundle out of us this week...
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Post by whatagain on Mar 16, 2019 17:26:26 GMT
Our neighbour woke up and conversed with family. So far so good.
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Post by questa on Mar 16, 2019 23:13:26 GMT
He wrote a letter and took a lot of pills. woke up and conversed with family It must be a difficult time for conversation, where would you start? At least they are communicating, I hope. Thank goodness there are good neighbours like the Whatagains to be there when they are needed. Look after yourselves as well...
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Post by kerouac2 on Mar 17, 2019 4:37:03 GMT
I hope they had enough sense to talk about the latest football games and not "WHY DO YOU DO THAT?"
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Post by cheerypeabrain on Mar 17, 2019 18:27:37 GMT
I feel a mixture of compassion and anger at people who take their own lives. I've always thought that suicide is a monumentally selfish act that causes immense pain to those left behind. However I cant imagine how awful life must be for somebody to take that road.
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Post by lagatta on Mar 18, 2019 14:50:04 GMT
I put suicide for (physical) medically-related reasons - or a dementia diagnosis - in another category.
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Post by whatagain on Mar 18, 2019 19:21:07 GMT
From about the same vein my daughter left a club behind another customer - who had drunk too much and witnessed the car doing loopings shirtly after. Everybody stopped and my daughter went to help. Passenger was dead and the driver died just before ambulance came.
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Post by cheerypeabrain on Mar 18, 2019 20:01:13 GMT
I suppose my opinions about suicide are coloured largely by experience. A 23 year old family member took his own life. He was very much loved and there were no outward signs of depression. At a party a few days before he took his own life he appeared happy and 'normal'. Any one of us would have helped him, he didn't have financial problems, was young and handsome, had a lovely girlfriend and lots of friends. It shook us rigid. Devastated us all. No note, just gone. It was his choice but one can't help thinking that it could have been prevented if he'd just spoken to somebody, anybody.
I agree that an individual with a devastating illness, a poor prognosis, pain etc has the right to consider other options.
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Post by Kimby on Mar 21, 2019 13:33:58 GMT
Last night, while returning from the lake cottage, we spent more than an hour sitting in stopped traffic due to a horrendous wrong-way driving fatality crash between a sedan and a fully-loaded semi-tractor-trailer that closed all four lanes of the interstate highway while traffic investigators investigated. The wreck occurred early afternoon, so why it wasn’t cleared by 9pm is unclear, though there was a fire.
We exited onto a two-lane highway that soon was also totally stopped, inching ahead painfully slowly. At the first opportunity we turned onto a dirt track that we had biked on in the past, and hoping that it was plowed, began a 26 mile detour. Eventually arrived home around 11:30pm.
The driver of the sedan, however, will never return home.
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Post by kerouac2 on Mar 21, 2019 15:27:31 GMT
I came across just one clearly fatal accident in my life, right after it had happened, just past midnight on January 1st in Los Angeles. There was blood as well as car fragments all over the road and the police or emergency services had not yet arrived. It was on the freeway in the middle of the downtown area. This was long before the invention of mobile phones. I just kept driving, because there was nothing I could do.
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Post by questa on Mar 21, 2019 23:54:30 GMT
Living in semi-rural Hills area, my son was a member of the local fire service, as was his then girlfriend. They were both 17. The fire service was the first responders for any vehicle accidents. One morning, 8am, their pagers called them to a crash where a car had taken a steep bend and then gone over the edge and rolled down the grassy slope until stopped by a tree.
The senior officer scrambled down the hill to assess the situation, returning with a terse "she's gone". My son and girl were given a large cloth to cover the car and told to stay there until the body had been removed.
When they reached the car they were shocked to find the driver was their class teacher and they had gone through school with her. The girlfriend was further upset that the teacher had been wearing the same pretty scarf and carrying the same novel as she was.
Due to the terrain it took hours to get in the heavy duty machinery to retrieve the car and an ambulance to take the body away. The Senior officer then took the youngsters to the station for coffee and de-brief. They got home 9pm.
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Post by whatagain on Mar 25, 2019 17:43:43 GMT
Tough. Good son you have Questa. Kind of difficult way to learn life though.
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Post by mickthecactus on Mar 25, 2019 18:14:45 GMT
Just 17? That is awful.
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Post by questa on Mar 25, 2019 23:11:44 GMT
I was grateful that the older men in the squad did a full debrief session with them. I had talked to my son about what he might experience when he joined the fieries, but not the girl.
I recall the lack of any form of debrief or counselling when doing our nurse training in the hospital. We sheltered 17 yo girls were thrown into the deep end if it had not been for our fellow nurses and copious cups of coffee and tears, would not have made the 4 years.
We started with 29 in our group, finished with 12, 9 of whom still meet each year. Next year will be our 60th anniversary of starting our careers together.
Whatagain, yes he is a fantastic person, husband, father and community leader. Beats me where he got those genes from!
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Post by kerouac2 on Apr 23, 2019 19:11:17 GMT
I received a collective email from a downstairs neighbour informing us that there was a gas leak in the building. He contacted the gas company and they came and fixed everything. The neighbour also said that he had opened the windows in the stairwell to air out the building. I didn't smell a thing until I received the email. Now I keep imagining that I can smell whiffs of gas.
Only one flat in the building uses gas, and that is the one directly below mine. Naturally, I also have visions of all of those news reports of buildings destroyed by gas explosions.
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Post by whatagain on Apr 23, 2019 20:15:54 GMT
Can't you buy a gas alarm/sniffer ? Would help to sleep at least.
Did the neighbour get chocolates ?
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Post by Kimby on Apr 23, 2019 21:35:05 GMT
I left my book on an airplane. Damn.
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Post by mich64 on Apr 23, 2019 22:45:54 GMT
If it were myself, I would buy a detector and place it in the closest outlet near your apartment door. But I am an overly cautious person. If there were an outlet in your hallway, I would put one there as well. We have a carbon monoxide detector (we have propane fireplaces) and smoke detector on each floor in our home, it is the law here for either a single home or apartment.
If you continue to think you smell it, it is better to be safe and call for assistance. If that were to happen here, we would call 911 (Emergency) and the fire department would come with a hand held meter and if they got a reading they would contact the utility to turn off the gas until they repair the issue. I had to call last year when my husband was on shift and they came and checked, it was a problem with the detector, but I would never have slept that night either.
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Post by mich64 on Apr 23, 2019 22:48:00 GMT
We left a bag of groceries at the check out yesterday.
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Post by questa on Apr 23, 2019 23:23:10 GMT
It is an awful feeling, isn't it Mich,? I phoned the supermarket as soon as I got home and realised it. They asked me to name 4 items in the bag then said it was there for me to collect. I returned to find they had entered all the items in a notebook, put the frozen and chilled items in labelled bags and into appropriate storage. Again they asked for the 4 items and ran the CCTV showing me loading up my bags then walking off with a bag left behind. I was so apologetic but they reassured me it happens all the time. Naturally I will always shop there...SERVICE!
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Post by mich64 on Apr 24, 2019 1:41:12 GMT
It is an awful feeling, isn't it Mich,? We did feel awful, but thankfully there was not much in the bag, a small bunch of grapes, 2 bananas and a tomato. Just a few things to get us through a couple of days before we leave on holiday. They have this triangle bag dispensing contraption where they fill your bags and then twist it around to you. We guess she missed turning it for the last bag.
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Post by bixaorellana on Apr 24, 2019 1:48:01 GMT
Grapes are expensive!
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Post by patricklondon on Apr 24, 2019 8:33:25 GMT
Donkeys years ago, my mother did that with the shopping she bought before our journey home from a seaside holiday. Oh well, nothing for it but a trip to the chippy that night. My blog | My photos | My video clips | My Librivox recordings"too literate to be spam"
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Post by Kimby on Apr 24, 2019 11:35:51 GMT
I left my book on an airplane. Damn. And now I need to switch to the Little Things That Mean a Lot thread: Mr. Kimby picked up my book before leaving the plane and I found it on the pillow last night.
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Post by cheerypeabrain on Apr 24, 2019 17:25:03 GMT
My beloved is bored....so he has decided to work on the house....the house is FINE...I really love(d) our kitchen diner. When Jeff took out the doors between the dining room and conservatory, put a false ceiling in the conservatory then put down an engineered wood floor throughout giving us a large space encompasing kitchen, dining room and conservatory I was very happy...it gave us so much space.
But he's BORED
Now he's put up some bifold doors between the dining room and the conservatory. Admittedly they have glass in (top half is glazed) but I really hate it. I didn't want him to do it but it's his house too so I don't have the right stop him (belive me I tried). I'm a bit peeved because he knows how I feel but has gone ahead...saying that it will be warmer in the winter...that he'll build a little bookcase to disguise the fact that the two doors don't completely fill the gap. He'll paint them white to bounce the light around...HAH! I know that we can have the doors open...but we have lost natural light...I've lost my lovely big open room. What he didn't tell me is that he's decided to do the same in the hall, using doors without glass in them...making the porch seperate from the hallway. Again we are going to lose light...
I must stop being so negative and TRY to make the best of things...but it's given us cluttered, pokey rooms imo and I'm not a happy bunny...he keeps explaining what he's doing...obviously tring to instill enthusiasm into his ungrateful wife...and he is as happy as a pig in poo because he's got projects to do...I ought to be more supportive, and thankful that I have a husband who can turn his hand to anything DIY...I WILL GROW TO LOVE IT...(I am not whining at him...but he KNOWS that I don't like it)
*sigh*
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Post by bjd on Apr 24, 2019 18:20:54 GMT
Cheery, can't you ask him to build you a new garden shed, with wood and windows? Keep both of you happy.
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Post by questa on Apr 24, 2019 22:01:49 GMT
The purveyors of DIY tools and materials have a lot to answer for
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