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Post by Kimby on Nov 2, 2022 13:50:45 GMT
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Post by lugg on Feb 13, 2023 20:37:38 GMT
This could go into many other threads but I will put it here as I need to get it off my chest and yes ...rant. I have started ( yet again) clearing out my crap / my children's crap and other detritus that has been dumped on me over the last 27 years I have lived in my house. I plan to put my house on the market soon ( within 2 months) and so need to get it de-cluttered and spruced up.
My DIL helped me clear some boxes in the garage left here by my ex a few years ago (years after we had divorced) which he told me were items belonging to my MIL taken from her house which he had sold. I accepted them as my MIL lives in a residential home near to me and my ex lives overseas.
Anyway ... stored in one of the boxes were his father's ashes. What the hell do I do with those - I can hardly de=clutter them .
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Post by mickthecactus on Feb 13, 2023 20:44:32 GMT
Sprinkle them in the garden. Like a green burial.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 13, 2023 21:33:46 GMT
That's a really nice idea, Mick. It's certainly more respectful to the deceased than leaving them forgotten in someone elses garage.
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Post by kerouac2 on Feb 13, 2023 22:03:23 GMT
I walked past the memorial garden in Père Lachaise today. The grass really loves all of those ashes.
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Post by htmb on Feb 13, 2023 22:08:36 GMT
Good grief! Shame on him.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 13, 2023 22:31:18 GMT
Dear Lugg, at least you have others to blame for your accumulation & excess stuff. I'm awash in self-reproach right now over the amount of crap I have. Okay, it's not all crap, but just way more stuff than any one person needs.
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Post by bjd on Feb 14, 2023 8:33:50 GMT
I agree with Mick about the ashes. Sprinkle them in the countryside.
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Post by lugg on Feb 14, 2023 20:21:05 GMT
Thank you all. Really the venting and your responses have helped me get my head around it. So as long as my children agree, I have decided to hold onto my FIL ashes until my MIL dies ( presuming she will die before me ..but she has the constitution of an ox at 95 and I am not sure I do ) But if so I will find a lovely place for both of them. It will be back in Nottingham I expect , where they were both born and lived all their lives until my MIL came here to Herefordshire so my children and I could make sure she was safe and cared for.
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Post by htmb on Feb 14, 2023 21:37:25 GMT
That sounds like a well thought out plan, especially if you bring your children into it. Sounds like your in-laws are/were extremely lucky to have you in their lives.
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Post by mickthecactus on Feb 14, 2023 21:59:31 GMT
Indeed. Very much so.
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Post by bixaorellana on Feb 14, 2023 23:08:05 GMT
It is beautiful the way you honor your former mother-in-law as a presence in your life and as the grandmother of your children.
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Post by bjd on Feb 15, 2023 6:55:24 GMT
That sounds like a good idea to put the two in-laws' remains together when the time comes. I hadn't realized your mother-in-law was still alive. Is she aware enough to ask her what she wants done with their remains?
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Post by kerouac2 on Feb 15, 2023 11:46:20 GMT
I'm sure that my stepfather from North Carolina absolutely never imagined that his ashes would end up in a village cemetery in France, but I am also 100% certain that he would have wanted to be with my mother, and he is. As for my mother, even though she was born in that village, I doubt that she ever expected to be buried there, having lived almost all of her life on a completely different continent.
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