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Post by rikita on Jan 25, 2015 0:06:40 GMT
yeah there are services that the health insurance should pay for, that would help with some things (like my grandparents get some household help paid by health insurance, currently) - but i am not sure i know her well enough to suggest that, i might mention it in passing when i speak to her next, though ...
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Post by rikita on Jan 26, 2015 11:40:55 GMT
well, she is in hospital now - the guy in the bar told me today that she didn't look well saturday, when he last saw her, and that he is worried, so i promised to ring her door bell on the way home. i heard her voice in there, but couldn't understand what she was saying and she didn't come to the door. tried to call her then, and she didn't answer the phone. so then i knocked at my next door neighbour, who called her son - the son said he'd come by in the evening, but couldn't before. next door neighbour and i went to knock again, and this time i understood something about key service. so after some discussion whether to call an ambulance or the key service, we decided for the latter, had to wait quite a while, then they broke the door open, and she was lying on the kitchen floor, half underneath the table, without trousers on. the key service guy helped her up, and while he put in a new lock (the old lady had part of the money for it there in cash, i paid the rest for now), we asked her what happened, got her some trousers, and then called her doctor. her doctor has to work until 9 pm today though, so can't come, so we called an ambulance after all, as he (the doctor) also said she needs to be checked over thoroughly ... so now she is in hospital, and my next-door neighbour thinks it is unlikely that she will return, and if she does, she won't be able to live alone anymore. also got to figure out what to do with her dog, for now the dog is in the apartment still, i will walk her in the later afternoon, after returning from the dentist with agnes, and then my next door neighbour will take it overnight ...
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Post by bjd on Jan 26, 2015 12:40:27 GMT
The lady is lucky she has good neighbours, rikita.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2015 12:49:13 GMT
It's a good thing you were keeping an eye on her, rikita. I received an email from my brother this morning, and he told me the same sort of story about his wife's father who just went into hospice care and has not realised yet that he is never going home again.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2015 15:43:09 GMT
Oh rikita, I can just imagine what an emotional upheaval your day has been. You did all the right things, obviously; she could have broken a hip or worse. Good for you for keeping an eye on her and being concerned, otherwise she might still be there. (And I hope you get your money back for the key service from the son!)
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Post by htmb on Jan 26, 2015 17:00:37 GMT
Well done, Rikita. She was very lucky to have you on alert.
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Post by rikita on Jan 26, 2015 22:59:12 GMT
well, i suppose it is good that we found her and she is in hospital now, and not alone on the floor - but from what my next door neighbour says (after speaking to her son, who of course got more information from the doctors) she might really not leave the hospital anymore. and her poor doggie has to be put down too - it was doing very badly for a while already, and my next-door neighbour thinks itshould have been put out of her suffering a while ago already, now it can't walk at all anymore - wonder if that is due to the shock of her owner's fall. next door neighbour is taking it to the vet tomorrow. i feel very sorry for the poor thing, and was in half a mind to take her up here, but next-door neighbour says that since the dog doesn't really know me, doesn't know my place at all, and apparently is not clean at all, it wouldn't be a good idea. i suppose she is right, also because of agnes it might not be so good to have a suffering animal in here, especially since i don't know anything about dogs. not sure if next-door neighbour took the dog to her place for the night now, or not ... and feel sorry for neighbour (the one in hospital), she really looks like she's given up, while we were waiting for the ambulance she even said she doesn't want to live anymore ...
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Post by htmb on Jan 26, 2015 23:24:55 GMT
Oh, that's really sad on all accounts. The poor dog, if it's really in that bad of shape, will be much better off being put out of its misery. I'm sorry your neighbor must go through this ordeal, Rikita. It's good you were there to lend a hand when it was needed. It sounds like you've been a very good neighbor.
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Post by rikita on Jan 27, 2015 16:27:10 GMT
well, she did pass away this morning ... at least her son got to say good bye though ...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2015 16:31:26 GMT
So sorry, rikita.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2015 17:34:28 GMT
Oh, that was really fast! But people who give up from living seems to be able to do that in a flash.
Even though I'm glad her son was able to say goodbye to her, I nevertheless hope he feels like an ass for saying that he couldn't come until the evening when she was lying on the floor.
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Post by bjd on Jan 27, 2015 17:37:44 GMT
That's difficult, rikita, but at least you know you managed to do something for her at the end. At least she didn't die alone in her apartment.
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Post by mich64 on Jan 27, 2015 19:11:11 GMT
Sorry to read that she has passed away Rikita and that her dog will be put down, at least they had each other until the end. Hopefully knowing that someone was looking out for her with caring and compassion comforted her in the end. I hope I have a neighbour like you when I am older Rikita.
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Post by rikita on Jan 27, 2015 22:59:33 GMT
thanks ... well I also hope it comforted her a bit ... apparently she had some kind of blood poisoning from a reaction to earlier medical problems, and had that for weeks, and that was part of the reason for her fast decline, and her falling and not being able to get up was also connected. not sure about the details, as i only know what my next door neighbour tells me, and i suppose she doesn't know it from the doctors either. anyway, i suppose the details aren't that important anyway ... it is strange to think she is gone, even though she wasn't anyone close (back when she was still in good health she actually got on my nerves a bit, though i hope i never showed that) ... when we passed her door this afternoon after daycare, Agnes, imitating my tone of voice from the times when i tried to bring her some cake, said "Mrs. W. there?", and it was a strange feeling to have to answer, no, she is not there anymore ...
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Post by Kimby on Mar 2, 2015 5:37:38 GMT
Just discovered this thread and read it from start to finish. Rikita, you are a caring young woman and your neighbor was fortunate having you in her life the last days of her life. She probably died feeling good. Or at least better than if you'd ignored her.
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