Since discovering my biological origins last year I’ve learned kidney problems are common in my family. My mother had renal failure towards the end of her life and died of a kidney infection after two years of dialysis. She suffered from a lot of other health issues, too, but it was the kidneys that got her in the end. Now my older sister is having her share of kidney problems. A tumor on her right kidney, discovered by accident, was found to be malignant and she’s scheduled for some sort of cryosurgery later this week (there’s also a small tumor on her other kidney, but it’s too early to tell if it’s going to be problematic). Hopefully this less invasive treatment will be successful and she’ll have a quick recovery. She had severe damage to her neck and spinal cord this past summer and is still recovering from near permanent paralysis and two surgeries, so she’s due for a break.
My only (minor) worry is melanoma since that is what killed my biological father prematurely. But he was also an alcoholic, and that increases the risk of any sort of cancer. Just about all other family members have died of "old age" at a very advanced time, so if I'm lucky I won't have to worry about it until the upper 80's.
I prefer to travel solo or if not only with my sis, daughter or few of my friends.
Ditto! Admittedly, at times it's much nicer to have company and of course some people need it because of mobility issues or whatever, but reading around various travel groups online, it's disconcerting to see how many people will never go anywhere alone.
Since discovering my biological origins last year I’ve learned kidney problems are common in my family.
For what it's worth, Htmb, do consider that the kidney problems (your poor sister!) in your biological family might be a result of environment rather than genetics. My mother and one of my sisters have both had breast cancer. Both of them spent years in heavily agricultural regions with crop dusting.
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(I'm wondering if we could merge this thread with the thread "Our Declining Years"? My original intent in starting this thread was to address the same topic and then the other thread popped up afterwards).
Anyway, one of the dismaying symptoms I am experiencing in the last couple of years is difficulty in the spelling of words.
I used to be able to spell even the most difficult of words and always prided myself on this.
I am now having to look up certain words and it's really frustrating.
Post by mickthecactus on Feb 22, 2020 16:40:04 GMT
I was 72 yesterday but don't feel I'm declining yet. I do need to keep fit and enjoy it but I don't get quite as much gardening in winter plus I lost my main job and haven't found a replacement yet. Walk 2 dogs each day.
The main improvement for me in recent years was being liberated from my principal job (and I do understand, Mick, that you are not referring to that in your own case but to pleasurable gardening) and the secondary job of looking after my mother ended all of a sudden one day as such things always do. I don't mind being a free agent now and basically not doing anything useful. I was useful for long enough.
However, I fully understand people who have the impulse to keep doing official things, but a bit less if they don't need extra money. Anything that I might do in the future, I will do for free.
I’m sorry to say, but I find the title of "declining years" to be very negative. I do get it. Yes, we are all getting older, aging, but the word declining sounds like we’ve been defeated by life. It doesn’t appear to me that anyone here is ready to totally give up the fight! At the moment, I’m taking a break from my French studies, getting ready to start back classes next week. I’m also icing my left knee because something pulled loose while I was walking around Miami snapping pictures, but I’m not ready to admit to decline. Maybe a little worn, is all.
I don't want to get into a "Kerouac's title vs Casimira's title" thing, since decisions have to be made on the forum & we can't be second-guessing them right and left.
Still, I agree with Htmb that "declining years" kind of smacks of "the end is nigh" or "it's all downhill from here". Htmb did put it much more eloquently.
Starting to blame everything on natural "decline" is the path to not addressing dietary/exercise/lifestyle habits which could be changed to potentially ward off said decline.
Just as some people had to be convinced that pregnancy was something natural and not to be treated as illness, we can educate ourselves to see aging as part of life's process which is different from other stages, but not automatically dire.
Post by cheerypeabrain on Feb 22, 2020 21:28:09 GMT
Happy birthday for yesterday Mick xxxxx
My health would probably improve if I lost about 5 stone in weight. I have shifted 13lbs so far this year but I do every spring...then usually put it all back on again. I'm trying.
I walk the dog every day at least once, and I often play with him crawling about on the floor. Aside from that, housework and a bit of gentle gardening I do very little exercise. Maybe I'll lose the5 stone and take up jogging...
"My years are declining, and I have the diagnosis from a Professor to prove it." Apart from occasional Fatigue days and the fact that I am slow in doing everyday tasks, I'm not much different from how I was 10 years ago. A couple of things have to change...take care, all you walkers, it is much easier to fall over as your balance centre becomes more mature. We are thinking of how to establish world peace or similar and miss our footing, or trip. It hurts and you feel like a goose with everyone watching.
The other thing that slows our oncoming decrepitude is the practice of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". Why get upset and stress over small stuff...only gives you grey hair and wrinkles.
Travel! Set out and head for pastures new[br] Life tastes the richer when you’ve road worn feet.[br]Ibn Battuta[br]