Weary worry, toil & trouble

[bixaorellana]

Dear Anyporters ~ This thread is in the Free Clinic under a loosely defined mental health/emotional support designation.

It seems there are times that we might want to verbalize something, whether or not it's a full-blown problem. Whatever that something is, it might not fit neatly into other threads, being too trivial for Grief, say, or too weighty for Blah blah blah.

We might want to talk about work, money, health, relationships, family, or any of a million other things that could be weighing on our minds. This can be a place to spell out a situation or just blurt out a fear or worry.

Let's treat each others concerns with respect, intuiting who might want advice, or who could use some sympathy, or who just needs to be heard.

[questaredux]

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[whatagain]

Yes.
I like to write about some Health issues that i don’t even discuss with my wife - like my potential heart issue but feel good that I can ‘ talk ‘ about it ti people I like and get some support.
It makes me feel good.

[kerouac2]

We are here to cure everybody with our positive energy.

[bixaorellana]

Ahh, thanks for supporting this idea, Whatagain!

Kerouac, everyone already knows that you are a constant little ray of sunshine.

[lugg]

What a good idea for a thread x

[tod2]

This is a wonderful idea - So many of us think about stuff but may not have the courage to bring it to another human, or may not have someone with a sympathetic ear and even some useful advice.
When my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer two years ago now, I was devastated. It took me a while to talk to another person on Anyport about it. Why I don't know, but I think it was part of me wondering if it would just go away if I didn't think about it. It took a very nice lady at the hospital to give me some positive advice. Her husband was also undergoing treatment - I am eternally grateful to her for suggesting Dr.William Li's book to me, and give me the determination to give my husband the correct diet for his cancer, and have nothing but positive vibes. A year later and his bloods have come back 'Undetectable' - From a high PSI reading of 54 to 0,0% is just awesome.

[cheerypeabrain]

Hi Ho...just had a CT scan. Quite straightforward and not scary (I shut my eyes) The worst thing was queueing at the paying point in the car park at the hospital...Jeff had to take me back to the car to wait because I was flagging a bit.

This morning I managed to make a beef casserole, Jeff has prepared a nice variety of vegetables to go with it so even tho I won't eat a lot, I'll have plenty of variety.

[bjd]

I always find it interesting to look at whatever is on the screen during medical tests. I haven't had many but find that looking at what is being examined takes my mind off any possible negative results. A few years ago I had some fluid injected in order to see how my heart was working. The doctor wanted me to wear a kind of mask over my face but I didn't want it. The results were fascinating -- it looked like the Nile delta. The docs are also willing to explain what is going on, in my experience.

[bixaorellana]

Belated thank-yous to Lugg and to Tod.

Jan 22, 2025 14:56:59 GMT tod2 said:

When my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer two years ago now, I was devastated. It took me a while to talk to another person on Anyport about it. Why I don't know, but I think it was part of me wondering if it would just go away if I didn't think about it. ... I am eternally grateful to {a lady} for suggesting Dr.William Li's book to me, and give me the determination to give my husband the correct diet for his cancer ...

Interesting point about not immediately wanting to talk about something profoundly upsetting, Tod. I have felt that way about certain things too, not least because I don't always know right away how I feel about them.
I noticed the other day that you responded to a remark by Whatagain about his more healthful diet with some very detailed knowledge about nutrition. Is that a result of following a dietary plan for your husband's health?

Jan 22, 2025 19:17:29 GMT bjd said:

The doctor wanted me to wear a kind of mask over my face but I didn't want it. The results were fascinating -- it looked like the Nile delta.

Strange about the dr. wanting you not to see. Was he/she worried it would upset you? The Nile delta comparison is rather thrilling!

Jan 22, 2025 17:15:55 GMT cheerypeabrain said:

just had a CT scan. Quite straightforward and not scary (I shut my eyes)

Oh, you are brave, Cheery! I would be afraid I'd freak out with claustrophobia. Good going.
It's great that Jeff helps out by making a selection of foods to tempt you. That must make the cooking you do for your guys even nicer.

[bjd]

Jan 22, 2025 20:19:56 GMT bixaorellana said:

Strange about the dr. wanting you not to see. Was he/she worried it would upset you?

I suppose so. I'm sure some people prefer not to know/see. I remembered because Cheery said she had closed her eyes during the CT scan.

[tod2]

Jan 22, 2025 20:19:56 GMT bixaorellana said:

Yes absolutely. Nutrition the correct way can cure disease. Most of what we eat is working against us. And yet it so simple just to add the correct food (you don't have to cut out everything - except you must cut sugar most definitely) That is not sugar or sucrose in fruit of course, but "sugar" in starch is also sugar.

[cheerypeabrain]

I have eaten 5 very small portions/meals today. The highlight was a huge baked rice pudding which the boys were ecstatic over, I put eggs in too to enrich it and managed a small bowl. I've hidden another small portion at the back of the fridge...it is delicious...the spoon can stand up in it it's so thick Go Me!

[bixaorellana]

Go you, indeed! I loooove rice pudding & am very happy to know where the extra portion is hidden.

[Kimby]

Jan 22, 2025 20:41:42 GMT bjd said:

Jan 22, 2025 20:19:56 GMT bixaorellana said:

Strange about the dr. wanting you not to see. Was he/she worried it would upset you?

I suppose so. I'm sure some people prefer not to know/see. I remembered because Cheery said she had closed her eyes during the CT scan.

[Kimby]

If it’s anything like an MRI, the space you are inserted into is so narrow that if you open your eyes, you are looking into the machine only 1-2” away. Immediate panic, rapid shallow breathing, hot flash, “get me out of here!”

I never experience claustrophobia till I had an MRI. Now other things will trigger mild claustrophobic anxiousness.

If I had realized that the head end of the machine was open, I would have been calmer. But I was afraid of using up all the oxygen in that narrow tube mostly filled with my body.

[onlyMark]

Minor things - Mrs M has come back from a couple of flights for a business trip with a cold. So it's going to be chicken soup for dinner tonight.
I was scrubbing an oven tray with one of those steel wool things and I've ended up with a sliver/splinter of it under a nail. Quite painful for a small thing and of course I keep catching it on everything. Especially when  trying to type. I tried for a couple of days to get it out but it refused to so I've bought a cream which I'm not sure if it's well known. It's a 'drawing' cream mainly used to spots and boils but I use it for stubborn splinters and it works well.
It's called Magnesium Sulfate Paste and over the counter.
This is the German version but twice the price. Only thing I could get though at short notice -

[monetsmum]

I remember my mum using that on stubborn splinters back in the day. 

[cheerypeabrain]

Our son came to visit today, he's been nagging to come for weeks but we kept putting him off. A few tears but not too traumatic. I think that Jeff snd Russ really needed to see him, Jeff took him for a pint and a chat before he brought him home, then later the two 'boys' took the dog for a walk.

I have a hysteroscopy next week....not heard anything since ghe CT scan.

[kerouac2]

I'm sure that Jeff and Ross had a good talk, and that's good for you, too.

[cheerypeabrain]

Yes they seemed a little more relaxed after Matt's visit.

[tod2]

A ray of bright light from the Tod's today. Bloods PSI 0.0% and Undetectable. I always have faith it will remain so for Peter as I feed him the ever black berries, purple plums, dark black grapes, Blueberries and the odd Kiwi (He is not fond). We neglected a spoon of beetroot today with our salad of lettuce and tomato lunch - tsk tsk!

[mickthecactus]

That’s good news tod.

[cheerypeabrain]

Hello, still hanging around I had some ultrasound guided needle biopsies on Monday. It wasn't awful, I was taken to the department on a hospital bed in a gown, past all the other patients sitting in the waiting room. I didn't wave regally (altho in my head I did).

Whilst recovering on the ward i had a call from my consultant's secretary to give me a date for my operation. 14th March all being well.

I asked to see my blood results and was quite pleased at how healthy they looked. Fingers crossed they stay as good. Struggling with fortisips (liquid meal replacement) as they give me serious problems in the bathroom department...but hoping that my GP will prescribe a non milk based high protein energy drink that will compensate for my poor diet.

Just reporting in As you were...

[htmb]

Sounds quite encouraging, Cheery.

[bjd]

It's good that you are knowledgeable about the blood work, Cheery. It's even better that the results are good. March 14th will be here before you know it and it sounds as though they are not planning any chemotherapy beforehand. It's all positive.

[kerouac2]

That sounds quite positive, Cheery, and your positive attitude will help considerably.

[monetsmum]

Thanks for the update Cheery. Everything still crossed for you and sending positive vibes.

[mich64]

Really pleased for you that your lab results are positive. You have the expertise and experience when viewing them to know what indicators to look for.

Keeping good thoughts for you and thank you for keeping us updated.

[bixaorellana]

Yeah -- what Mich said about your knowing what you're looking at. Thanks for checking in with this encouraging update.