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Post by spindrift on Jan 26, 2010 11:13:25 GMT
One day, if we meet, we'll chat about this....
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Post by lagatta on Jan 26, 2010 12:13:52 GMT
Oh, I'm sure we will. Rest assured that I respect your outlook and beliefs, and know "detachment" in the Buddhist sense does not mean a lack of interest in other living beings (you sure look interested in your sweet puppy). I'm just not very "Zen" (yes, I know that popular use has little to do with actual Zen Buddhism) as you've probably gathered.
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Post by bixaorellana on Jan 26, 2010 16:42:08 GMT
And apologies to you, LaGatta, if it seemed as though I was trying to "educate" you. I re-read my post, and it could seem annoyingly pedantic. I have to admit that I'm pretty interested in the "Dear Abby" aspect of the OP. Aside from the many insightful comments here, I wanna know what the consensus is on tell/don't tell. As far as I can see, it almost evenly divided so far, although perhaps a bit more towards the don't tell side.
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Post by Kimby on Jan 26, 2010 16:57:03 GMT
Well, if you do tell and they become a real couple, you will find yourself on your friend's shit list for bad-mouthing her loved one. Perhaps one could just urge caution without any specific information being passed along?
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Post by spindrift on Jan 26, 2010 17:25:20 GMT
No possibility of them becoming a 'real couple'.....
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Post by auntieannie on Jan 31, 2010 16:43:58 GMT
Actually, I realised I didn't answer my own question (at the top of the thread). Kimby's suggestion that a general word of caution with the person in question does suit me. I am not one for dramas.
Would this discussion benefit from a "woman player" versus male "prospective victim" thread? I do want to express that "victim" in that situation sounds much too strong a word for me.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 31, 2010 18:04:55 GMT
I spent several hours yesterday advising a close friend in a bad situation and giving my own analysis. And even so, I found that I censored some of my advice and analysis to make it all less painful -- and also less useful.
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Post by auntieannie on Jan 31, 2010 22:19:29 GMT
Only the truth hurts, K2!
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Post by lagatta on Feb 1, 2010 3:03:53 GMT
It's not just that, k. You and I know from long experience that friend can turn against you - whether or not the relationship pans out!
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Post by palesa on Feb 18, 2010 16:50:43 GMT
Speechless
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Post by spindrift on Feb 22, 2010 10:17:49 GMT
;D
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