|
Post by questa on Dec 28, 2018 6:29:55 GMT
Sorry, it is common here. You have guessed it already. it is to work something out with a touch of ,"Ah-Hah" in the answer.
What do you use for this meaning?
|
|
|
Post by kerouac2 on Dec 28, 2018 6:34:02 GMT
I'll think about it and maybe it will dawn on me.
|
|
|
Post by mickthecactus on Dec 28, 2018 11:26:32 GMT
I am slowly relaxing tonight after a scary drive home. When we drove to town after dinner the roads were clear, 2 1/2 hours later when I got in the vehicle to come home, an expected wind/snow storm had begun a few hours earlier than predicted. The snow had already accumulated quickly and the roads were completely snow covered and with little traffic out and about, it was difficult to make out the lanes in the dark. I was driving cautiously but had a truck following me on the highway that was not appreciating my respect for the conditions. Once we reached a straight away he sped past me, as was his right, but I was surprised and upset about the vulgar hand gesture as he passed. The silly thing was, once he was out in front of me, he barely increased his speed. I guess he realized that he no longer had the benefit of following my tail lights or tracks and perhaps he then understood my driving speed was in accordance with the conditions. This stretch of highway is notorious for speeding (and accidents), tonight I was just unlucky to have one of those idiots behind me. What a total pillock mitch. Too many of them on the road these days.
|
|
|
Post by kerouac2 on Dec 28, 2018 11:37:58 GMT
Recently a motorcyclist spat on my windscreen as he passed because he had not been able to squeeze past the car I was driving as quickly as he wanted.
|
|
|
Post by mich64 on Dec 28, 2018 12:09:26 GMT
What a total pillock mitch. Too many of them on the road these days. I am not sure what a pillock is Mick, but I think I would like to call him that too! Recently a motorcyclist spat on my windscreen as he passed because he had not been able to squeeze past the car I was driving as quickly as he wanted. Oh my! Wow! Questa, thankfully, I think in most cases, drivers do look out for each other in the way your fellow traveller did.
|
|
|
Post by mickthecactus on Dec 28, 2018 12:20:29 GMT
According to the OED a pillock is an informal British Noun meaning a stupid person. Its not quite a swear word so satisfying to use.
K2 that is disgusting. Pillock is too good a word for him. Wan*er might be more appropriate.
|
|
|
Post by onlyMark on Dec 28, 2018 14:13:54 GMT
Tosser, or my favourite, wazzock.
|
|
|
Post by Kimby on Dec 28, 2018 14:37:52 GMT
“Twigged” is unfamiliar slang to me. Short for figured out? Sorry, it is common here. You have guessed it already. it is to work something out with a touch of ,"Ah-Hah" in the answer. What do you use for this meaning? No good word in American English. Sussed out. Got it. Grokked?
|
|
|
Post by mossie on Dec 28, 2018 14:53:20 GMT
Many years ago, driving home after work, we had a vicious snowstorm which made driving dicy. I had some one stuck behind me making it obvious he was a much better driver than me, so when the road straightened out I let him by. About half a mile later there he was, jammed in the hedge. I just drove past and left him to it.
|
|
|
Post by mickthecactus on Dec 28, 2018 15:58:16 GMT
Tosser, or my favourite, wazzock. Tosser is good, wazzock isn’t strong enough. I musy say I use the word pr*ck at other stupid drivers but rather strangely Mrs Cactus says ignoramus. Of course I am never a stupid driver...
|
|
|
Post by mich64 on Dec 28, 2018 21:08:59 GMT
Mossie, that is what my husband said could have happened to this guy as well. When my husband went to work this morning he said the vehicle in front of him was traveling 10 klm/hr less than what I was doing last night. He said they were both driving to the needs of the road conditions this morning and it would have been unsafe to pass. I was beginning to feel that perhaps I might have been driving over cautiously, but I think I did the right thing. Mick, those are some funny sounding words!
|
|
|
Post by questa on Dec 28, 2018 21:43:51 GMT
Tosser is good...specially with a northern accent. In Oz we tend to go for multi-syllabic invective, "Watch it, shit-for-brains!" I prefer the simple "Dick-head" for minor stupidity...the level of contempt can be adjusted by tone. I reserve "Fuckin' Idiot" to convey my feelings for more serious breaches of driving etiquette. If needed, I can string a series of words together which describes the lack of skill and intelligence of the driver, his mates in the car and his parentage for 3 generations.
|
|
|
Post by cheerypeabrain on Dec 29, 2018 18:30:33 GMT
I donated blood today, the nurse dealing with me was rushed off her feet and didn't give me time to recover properly, and didn't take the time over the dressing that she should have, the pressure bandage wasnt on properly. So when I staggered over for my cuppa and biscuit the dressing gave way and my arm started emptying all over the floor. So instead of spending 50 minutes at the donation centre i was there for nearly 2 hours. Got a nasty bruise too.
|
|
|
Post by Kimby on Jan 3, 2019 17:43:14 GMT
I seem to have cost myself a friend by my good intentions.
I had not been in touch with this gal for a few years because we had a falling out over the bike trail that has recently come to our valley. I supported it and worked for many years to bring it to fruition. She opposed it, mainly because the planned route crossed the edge of a bird refuge her family had donated to the National Wildlife Federation in honor of her grandmother, the matriarch of the family ranch upon which all of our houses have been built since their family sold the ranch to developers after granny died. Though we haven’t been in contact since the trail issue arose, I still had fond feelings for her.
So when I heard recently that her mother (the matriarch’s daughter) had died, I sent her a note of condolence and admiration for her mother (who actually was the person responsible for us becoming friends to begin with). Mom lives in another state and only summers here, so I wasn’t surprised that I hadn’t seen an obituary.
I received a terse text berating me for spreading cruel rumors, since her mother is alive and well. She also asked me to take her off my mailing list. I guess in addition to the shock of getting condolences for her non-dead mother, she objected to my enclosing the note of sympathy in a Christmas card (but it WAS that time of year).
I immediately texted back an abject apology, but ended “in my defense, I didn’t want to remain silent when I heard this news.” She fired back with Ben Franklin’s “Don’t ruin an apology with an excuse!”
So I lost a friend by trying to be a friend. Tone deaf though my attempt may have been.
(Still trying to figure out how the false rumor got its start...)
|
|
|
Post by kerouac2 on Jan 3, 2019 18:13:14 GMT
Ouch! Now if you had supported putting an ATV track through the bird refuge, I could already better imagine the falling out. But a bike trail?
|
|
|
Post by Kimby on Jan 3, 2019 18:23:55 GMT
Her argument was that she could not see any way that a trail there would BENEFIT the birds it was set up to protect. Kids would leave the trail and - horrors! - play in the creek, and dog owners would disregard the leash law (despite a 45 MPH arterial just feet away from the trail), wreaking havoc on ground-nesting birds,etc.
My counter argument was that by allowing some human access to the refuge, bird-watching opportunities would increase, and people would gain an appreciation for the things the preserve was set up to protect, a net gain. She disagreed.
We left it at that, some years ago, and broke off contact. But I couldn’t ignore the news (fake news as it turns out) about her mother passing, and it ended up biting me in the butt....
|
|
|
Post by kerouac2 on Jan 3, 2019 18:33:41 GMT
A warning to all of us to verify everything that we hear.
|
|
|
Post by Kimby on Jan 3, 2019 18:53:38 GMT
Lesson learned.
|
|
|
Post by kerouac2 on Jan 3, 2019 19:16:46 GMT
Anyway, she sort of sounds like a bitch. Good riddance.
|
|
|
Post by onlyMark on Jan 3, 2019 20:08:48 GMT
A warning to all of us to verify everything that we hear. I'll have to verify that.
|
|
|
Post by Kimby on Jan 3, 2019 21:08:24 GMT
Anyway, she sort of sounds like a bitch. Good riddance. Righteous indignation doesn’t necessarily make one a bitch. If one’s right...
|
|
|
Post by questa on Jan 3, 2019 22:09:54 GMT
What a mixed up bundle of emotions you must be at the moment. Regrets over lost friend and embarrassment over friend's over-reaction, Anger that friend misread your good intention with the card and lashed out at you. Indignation (righteous or not) as both parties try to justify some harsh exchanges.
Sounds to me that you both care about each other a lot. Takes energy to do what you both did, You both cared enough for the other one to keep engaged with her, even if you escalated to "I'll wish I hadn't said that in the morning" territory.
What to do? Find a photo of the pair of you being outrageously happy, blow up the size and write on the back. No need to try to justify this recent event, let it disappear, remember the good times .
|
|
|
Post by Kimby on Jan 4, 2019 0:18:42 GMT
Questa, that would be a good course of action if we had had that sort of friendship. But though it started with much promise, it wasn’t more than a year or two before the trail issue drove a wedge between us, so our estrangement has lasted about 3 times as long as our budding friendship. Still, when a friend loses a parent, I can’t ignore it. I’m very happy her mom is alive. Just wish our friendship wasn’t dead.
|
|
|
Post by questa on Jan 4, 2019 0:40:00 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss, but you have my permission to slap the person who spread the fake news to you anyway.
|
|
|
Post by bixaorellana on Jan 4, 2019 0:56:49 GMT
So Cheery almost bleeds out in the last days of 2018 and Kimby has a courtesy blow up in her face, I'm assuming also in the waning days of 2018 . Let 2019 begin!
|
|
|
Post by lagatta on Jan 4, 2019 2:01:12 GMT
Cheery has certainly overdone her blood donation! Good thing you didn't need one after that.
|
|
|
Post by Kimby on Jan 4, 2019 3:15:49 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss, but you have my permission to slap the person who spread the fake news to you anyway. It was not maliciously done. When I asked the person who had told me the “sad news” if I had misheard her, she was astonished to hear that it wasn’t true. Astonished. Someone in county government had told her. Unless SHE had misunderstood. Oh well, water over the dam.
|
|
|
Post by bixaorellana on Jan 4, 2019 3:20:05 GMT
Or, as my ex mother-in-law used to say, blood under the bridge.
|
|
|
Post by lagatta on Jan 4, 2019 3:45:26 GMT
I once had a very close friend who suddenly turned on me. While I was distraught, I didn't question her, much as it hurt. Seems she thought her husband was infatuated with me, and perhaps he was. But while I found him a kind and pleasant chap, I had already inscribed him as a standing member of the Dull Men's Club, and had no particular interest in him, sexual or otherwise. This came to light many years later. It is sad, but these things happen.
|
|
|
Post by Kimby on Jan 8, 2019 18:51:57 GMT
What a mixed up bundle of emotions you must be at the moment. Regrets over lost friend and embarrassment over friend's over-reaction, Anger that friend misread your good intention with the card and lashed out at you. Indignation (righteous or not) as both parties try to justify some harsh exchanges. Sounds to me that you both care about each other a lot. Takes energy to do what you both did, You both cared enough for the other one to keep engaged with her, even if you escalated to "I'll wish I hadn't said that in the morning" territory. Guess she had a chance to think over my final reply to her, in which I said “I only reached out to you because I believed you’d lost your mother (as I did recently)...” Her reply isn’t an apology per se, but it’s better than nothing, and as she’s a proud woman, probably cost her a bit to do. (I’m not fooling myself that we’re buddies again, however.) “I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. I dread losing my own Mom, and can't imagine the grief and sadness that comes with such a loss. I wish you the best as well, and also hope for a kind recovery and adjustment to your loss. My deepest sympathies.” (Maybe this should be in Little Things That Mean a Lot.)
|
|