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Post by Kimby on Jun 23, 2017 14:58:21 GMT
Good thought huckle, but no. Cabin Creek. Probably from Penney's...
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Post by kerouac2 on Jun 23, 2017 15:00:39 GMT
That is outrageous, Kimby!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2017 16:26:55 GMT
That is indeed a very selfish and inconsiderate thing to do. I would be furious.
When I was going through my mother's papers, mementos etc. there were things that others would not have considered to be of any import or even know what they were or represented.
There was a slew of things that belonged to my stepfather that I had a strong urge to destroy because of private reasons but,I held back and contacted my step brother and was able to send them to him.
My reasoning was based on the fact that despite my own personal feelings, they had nothing to do with my step brother and grandson and they should not have to be punished for it and deserved to have these items as they were not rightfully mine to destroy.
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Post by Kimby on Jun 23, 2017 18:56:47 GMT
It wasn't selfishness or carelessness, rather misplaced good intentions on top of age-related cognition issues. She wanted to prevent MIL's sensitive info from falling into the wrong hands. But why she thought we wouldn't be back to get it or that she couldn't CALL us to ask what to do with it, I can't imagine.
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Post by mich64 on Jun 23, 2017 20:42:12 GMT
Kimby I am very sorry to read about the passing of your mother-in-law, deepest condolences.
Will this cause difficulty with the Lawyers/Court when finalizing her estate?
There has been a lot of media coverage here of how people have had their identities stolen from mislaid or stolen personal papers and I know my parents and in-laws are almost paranoid of this happening to them to the point of not wanting any computer devices, cell phones or even bank debit cards (though they all are fine with credit cards). They think we will someday regret doing anything on-line so I am not surprised by her immediate thought of destroying the personal data, but I agree she should have contacted you before doing so where you could have reassured her you would like everything back. I can not imagine either why she would have thought you would not be back?
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Post by kerouac2 on Jun 23, 2017 21:46:25 GMT
When my father died, I found that he had all sorts of clippings about what to do to avoid identity theft. I think that it has replaced the former fear of Red Communism. However, to honour his memory, I used his document shredder on about 20 years of cancelled cheques and 40 years of tax returns.
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Post by questa on Jun 23, 2017 23:44:16 GMT
My former husband, P, was 3 when his father was killed in a motor accident and mother badly injured. From the turmoil a biscuit tin with "for P" emerged which held a rosary and saint picture, a badge from father's school and 3 small appointment diaries. These were of pre WW2 years when Adelaide was a big country town and the family well off, in Society with Hunt Balls, Motor sport and "anyone for tennis" life style.
I asked P if I may read them and the historian in me spent hours of delight reading the tiny scratchings of social events, people he met, getting a job, a motorbike and buying a car. A few girls names appear then fade away. His older brother had a big wedding with guests whose family names still carry influence in this city.
Then older brother and wife had a baby. The midwife in me did a count back and found this healthy big kid was born about 6 weeks early! P and I had a quiet chuckle and moved on. The diaries stopped as he joined up in the Air Force.
After the war he met and married P's mother, had 2 sons, died. The biscuit tin moved with P and me through many addresses, neither of us game enough to throw it away
Move on 35 years...I mentioned the diaries to my MIL one day and she asked if she could read them. P said she could but to return them as it was the only things he had of his father. She burned them completely. P was heartbroken even though not really interested in them earlier. I was furious, how dare she? They were before her time and undeniably belonged to P. Her reason was "you don't want all that rubbish hanging around." Bitch!
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Post by Kimby on Jun 24, 2017 2:15:06 GMT
Will this cause difficulty with the Lawyers/Court when finalizing her estate? I agree she should have contacted you before doing so where you could have reassured her you would like everything back. I can not imagine either why she would have thought you would not be back? Since everything was already in a trust and Mr. Kimby is the trustee, I think it will be alright as regards settling the estate. We are blown away that neither she nor her son thought to contact us. She has our phone numbers and her "kids" have our email address. It's not like we were traveling abroad for months in pre-Internet days. And as far as us not coming back, we own a house down here and have been coming down in May and November every year since 2005. And we ALWAYS visit this aunt, and hang out with any of her 6 kids (Mr. Kimby's cousins) who might be visiting her at the time. I guess we have to chalk it up to advanced age. But what's her son (and accomplice)'s excuse?
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Post by bixaorellana on Jun 24, 2017 8:22:00 GMT
Questa, that was a downright vicious thing to do! Bitch, indeed.
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Post by Kimby on Jun 24, 2017 17:30:19 GMT
Ditto. And not a petty trauma at all.
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Post by mich64 on Jun 24, 2017 18:13:08 GMT
Wow Questa! That was a terrible thing she did. I just do not understand some people at all, bitterness perhaps.
You are correct Kimby, can not imagine what they were thinking. Glad to know it will not prevent finalizing her estate, that can prove difficult even in the best of circumstances.
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Post by Kimby on Jun 28, 2017 21:01:42 GMT
My friend/neighbor/walking companion and her husband are making an offer on a house today and it's 15 miles away. Happy for them, I guess. For myself. not so much.
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Post by questa on Jun 29, 2017 0:40:02 GMT
If they do move, you may get another good neighbour to walk with.
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Post by Kimby on Jun 29, 2017 3:36:31 GMT
That's one way to look at it, questa. My glass-half-empty viewpoint, however, is that this quiet mature couple will likely be replaced by a family with a pack of rowdy kids and dogs to upset the serenity of the "hood.
And two other neighbors (without kids or pets) are also considering moving. We'd be extremely lucky to keep the peace and quiet we enjoy now.
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Post by questa on Jun 29, 2017 4:46:26 GMT
An old Tibetan folk tale (in those days the people lived on 2 levels with the livestock penned at night under the living quarters. This warmed the family and animals were safe.)
"An old couple lived alone in their home and loved the peace and quiet. They ere visited by their son and family who decided to stay for a while. Soon the old woman was going crazy so she went to the wise lama in the village and told him of her distress.
"Get some more livestock, maybe the extra heat will send your family home" Alas, the extra heat only made the smells worse and animals noisy. So the woman went and told the lama.
"You have people in your family who play flute and (one string violin). Try asking them to play often to scare away bad spirits"
This didn't work either and the old lady was about to run away. She told the lama who said, "Remove the animals and musical instruments and tell me how it is" A week later when she saw the lama she was a new woman. Thank you so much, With such a quiet house again I can talk with my son and play with the children, You really are so wise"
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Post by rikita on Jun 29, 2017 11:27:17 GMT
kids don't necessarily have to be rowdy, even if they might make some noise ... even dogs can be nice ...
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Post by bixaorellana on Jun 29, 2017 13:15:16 GMT
I had a nice little excursion planned but can't get to where I want to go "due to a person on the track earlier", according to Transport for London. Oh well. I'm off to see if I can get to Brixton Market.
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Post by Kimby on Jun 29, 2017 13:27:11 GMT
Love your folk tale, questa. We sort of have experienced that effect - there used to be 26 dogs within 2 blocks of our house! We outlived most of em!
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Post by Kimby on Jun 29, 2017 14:07:16 GMT
kids don't necessarily have to be rowdy, even if they might make some noise ... even dogs can be nice ... Yes, I know kids can make a joyful noise. And I do like well-behaved kids. Like Agnes. ;-) But our dead-end street wooded neighborhood lends itself to more boisterous play, and rural Montana kids tend to have firearms and internal combustion engines in their "toy" arsenal. Our old kitty barely survived being shot with a pellet gun (air rifle), and one neighbor who owned a Harley Davidson dealership gave his kid an ATV which he drove in endless noisy loops around the 'hood. And then there's the creek. Kids cannot resist building dams, but the rancher downstream who owns the water rights has warned us that they have the right to "clean up" the creek bed with a bulldozer if they need to, to keep water flowing to his hayfields and cattle. That would destroy the natural feel of the little creek, and have a major impact on our property values. And kids like to play with matches, which could be devastating in this area of homes tucked into 80-foot tall ponderosa pine trees. Then when they become teenagers, they have loud parties and drive in and out at all hours.... Am I sounding like a curmudgeon?
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Post by whatagain on Jun 29, 2017 16:01:25 GMT
Yes you are Kimby, but I am in the same group.
Thank goodness whe have no firearms here at least... but the rest is the same story.
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Post by rikita on Jun 29, 2017 16:20:08 GMT
maybe it will be a family that is wanting to get away from that kind of play and have a calmer upbringing for their kids, themselves ...
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Post by kerouac2 on Jun 29, 2017 16:20:27 GMT
Don't you just love the teens who remove the mufflers from their motor scooters / motorbikes?
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Post by Kimby on Jun 29, 2017 18:23:50 GMT
Teens around here drive ONLY cars and trucks. No wimpy motorbikes! And they are loud, echoing off the hillsides that confine our valley. They like to do tricks with their brakes, leaving rubber tire marks all over the road. And for fun, they pull down the stop signs and steal the street signs. Nope, give me a retired couple any day.
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Post by mickthecactus on Jun 29, 2017 18:32:39 GMT
Mrs Cactus and I will move in next spring.
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Post by Kimby on Jun 29, 2017 21:08:40 GMT
Excellent Mick! We'll put out the Welcome mat!
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Post by questa on Jun 29, 2017 23:14:30 GMT
Careful, Kimby.Mr and Mrs Cactus may have the TV on loud in the wee small hours of the morning as he listens to the cricket being played on the other side of the planet. (It has to be loud in case he nods off during the boring bits)
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Post by Kimby on Jun 29, 2017 23:46:03 GMT
Since the houses are 300 feet (100 meters) apart. I doubt I'd notice a TV blaring. Now if he blasts his stereo on the deck, that might be a different matter!
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Post by kerouac2 on Jul 9, 2017 7:15:42 GMT
I was balancing my Asus Transformer Mini on my knee as I sat on a bench. Suddenly the tablet part detached and fell face down on the paving stones.
But there was absolutely no damage. Yay, Asus!
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Post by Kimby on Jul 9, 2017 12:39:46 GMT
Mr. Kimby dropped our Samsung Galaxy Tab 4 from about 4 feet onto a concrete sidewalk more than a month ago. So far no apparent damage. How can that be?
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Post by Kimby on Jul 9, 2017 12:44:59 GMT
Went to a garage sale at our neighbor - my walking buddy and her husband - who will be moving and selling their house soon. While there, we spoke to two OTHER near neighbors (next door and across the street) who are also planning to leave the neighborhood. (Is it something we did?)
The chance that at least ONE of these three houses will not be purchased by families with rowdy kids and barking dogs is is slim-to-none. We're living in dread here....
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