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Post by bixaorellana on Jan 1, 2018 17:09:17 GMT
Awww, Bjd, Cheery, Mich, and Mossie ~ you all are so good. As Mich says, this is a "community of people", so really nothing without the lovely members.
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Post by kerouac2 on Jan 2, 2018 5:08:52 GMT
I know it's just a fluke, but I found it interesting that the top three movies in the United States in 2017 all had female leads -- The Last Jedi, Beauty and the Beast and Wonder Woman. Of course two of the three were made to appeal to mostly male audiences...
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Post by rikita on Jan 2, 2018 10:14:17 GMT
i would suppose tastes in movies change too, at least a lot of the women i know would be more interested in the two movies "for boys" - or not in any of the movies at all ...
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Post by mickthecactus on Jan 2, 2018 13:13:14 GMT
The heating has broken down in our office and may take up to 6 weeks to repair.
Despite various mobile heaters dotted around it's bloody chilly.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2018 15:06:10 GMT
The heating has broken down in our office and may take up to 6 weeks to repair. Despite various mobile heaters dotted around it's bloody chilly. I thought you were retired Mick.
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Post by kerouac2 on Jan 2, 2018 16:15:08 GMT
They just can't get rid of him.
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Post by mickthecactus on Jan 2, 2018 16:30:15 GMT
The heating has broken down in our office and may take up to 6 weeks to repair. Despite various mobile heaters dotted around it's bloody chilly. I thought you were retired Mick. 2 months to go...,,
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Post by kerouac2 on Jan 10, 2018 18:48:23 GMT
I was highly amused yesterday when I entered the building at the same time as my 2nd floor neighbour who lives one floor below me. Her child informed her "that's the man who lives in the attic."
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Post by bixaorellana on Jan 10, 2018 23:32:43 GMT
I do hope you hunched your back and formed your hands into claws while looming over the child and making a scary face.
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Post by Kimby on Jan 11, 2018 0:24:34 GMT
I think of your apartment as a “garret”, which sounds more Parisian to me.
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Post by kerouac2 on Jan 16, 2018 22:58:29 GMT
I am in a tumult of anticipation waiting for more news about the "horror house" in California.
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Post by rikita on Jan 16, 2018 23:59:05 GMT
and i am a bit overwhelmed by the emotional dilemmas of a preschooler and how to guide her best through issues that would never even have occured to me.
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Post by tod2 on Jan 17, 2018 7:23:56 GMT
Rikita - I would love to know a few of her concerns. I had months of having to wait with my son at school until his best friend arrived in the morning. That was when he was 4 and at pre-school. When he started Grade/Class 1, I would hold his hand walking to class - he was now 6. His teacher did not like this and indicated he was big enough to cope on his own. Now when it comes to my grandsons ( his boys) they can't get to school soon enough and seem to absolutely love it. I have to wonder if this confidence/eagerness, might have something to do with the fact their parents divorced after 5 years of marriage...
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Post by questa on Jan 17, 2018 9:57:29 GMT
Tod2 and Rikita Separation Anxiety is very common and often seen in the eldest child, specially if the child is a boy. If the child has had experience at day care or a playgroup from about 2-3 years old, this builds up their confidence that Parent will come back. It is important that parents collect the child on time.The child sees all the other kids going home and anxiety sets in. Once they start school at 5 or so children have a very wide range of "normal" development, specially social development. Girls are off chatting and interacting with others, boys tend to be more interested in running around and being physically active. Some educators say boys shouldn't start school until 7 years as they are not ready for sitting quietly and learning.
The teacher who didn't like you holding hands with your son was way out of order with her ideas. Your boy was not ready yet to forgo what was a small gesture of attachment. What did she expect to gain from stopping your little ritual? A kid that felt bad about himself? Who regarded separation as a scary, humiliation and not part of normal life?
Your grandsons seem to have learnt that separation doesn't mean the end of the world. If they can still have contact and feel secure that their parents still love them, it makes a difference in their confidence.
Rikita, read up on Separation Anxiety...everyone is an expert and has their own views. YOU are the expert on your child and you will probably find some ideas to guide you.
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Post by rikita on Jan 17, 2018 11:17:01 GMT
she doesn't mind daycare these days - she had a phase of separation anxiety when she was three, but it got a lot better especially since she found her current best friend ...
the issue that i meant yesterday was, that after all that excitement about her upcoming birthday and talking about nothing else, in the evening she suddenly started crying and saying she doesn't want a birthday because she doesn't want to "separate from the age of four" (kind of vague translation) - she wants presents and everything, but she doesn't want to be five, because she thinks being four is much better. and she also worried that once she goes to school (which won't be until she is six) she might not have friends anymore, because daycare is where you have friends (might have to do with knowing that her best friend will start school in autumn already, a year before her?) - this morning she was fine though, and happy to say that she is five now, and unpack her presents and blow out the candle on her cake ...
she generally seems to think about things a lot, which also often keeps her from sleeping ...
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Post by kerouac2 on Jan 17, 2018 12:16:43 GMT
As the firstborn, my brother worried about all sorts of things that never bothered me. Since he was three years older than me, I just assumed that if he was still alive I would get through all of the same stuff, too. I'll never forget how panicked he was when he saw an anatomical illustration of the body with the heart, lungs liver, stomach, etc., and he was afraid that his heart might become unhooked and fall to the bottom.
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Post by onlyMark on Jan 17, 2018 13:02:01 GMT
Rikita, with our twins, one started school aged five and the other aged six. Would your daughter want to start school if she can at five?
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Post by mich64 on Jan 17, 2018 17:39:04 GMT
she doesn't mind daycare these days - she had a phase of separation anxiety when she was three, but it got a lot better especially since she found her current best friend ... the issue that i meant yesterday was, that after all that excitement about her upcoming birthday and talking about nothing else, in the evening she suddenly started crying and saying she doesn't want a birthday because she doesn't want to "separate from the age of four" (kind of vague translation) - she wants presents and everything, but she doesn't want to be five, because she thinks being four is much better. and she also worried that once she goes to school (which won't be until she is six) she might not have friends anymore, because daycare is where you have friends (might have to do with knowing that her best friend will start school in autumn already, a year before her?) - this morning she was fine though, and happy to say that she is five now, and unpack her presents and blow out the candle on her cake ... she generally seems to think about things a lot, which also often keeps her from sleeping ... Adorable pictures of Agnes! Happy Birthday to her. The daughter of a friend was very similar to Agnes (I often think of her when you write about her), she seemed to think about things a lot too and probably still does. She is away now attending University, thriving and enjoying life. My parents put me in school at 4 years old. I remember quite a bit about the classroom, my teacher, the books, the toys that we could only touch at play time and being with my sisters and brother for lunch break. I also remember the first day and not wanting my mom to leave me there.
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Post by rikita on Jan 18, 2018 0:51:38 GMT
Rikita, with our twins, one started school aged five and the other aged six. Would your daughter want to start school if she can at five? she might agree to it if asked, but i think she'd be too young - intellectually she'd do okay, but i think socially it is better to wait the year, she is not very good at sitting still or doing what she is supposed to do rather than what she wants to do, yet, and insecure in group situations still - also, i am not even sure i could send her to school that easily, unless she is tested as especially gifted (and also, the application deadline for most schools for the coming school year has passed) ...
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Post by questa on Jan 18, 2018 2:03:30 GMT
My first boy started school at 5years and 2 months.Big mistake! We should have waited a full year as he had about the same maturity as a 4 year old. Big hassle to get him to enter the school yard, obey rules and get on with his work. They told me he was disruptive and possible ADHD. Later he told me he just wasn't interested in classwork. As his class was combined ages I asked if for a term they could interact with him as if he were still 4. Gradually he caught up with the social development and by 6 years 2 months had settled into a 5-6 year pattern.
Kids learn so much out of school that they can't learn in class, and it is a great age for you too.
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Post by mickthecactus on Jan 18, 2018 8:54:38 GMT
Over here they start them at school way too early. Youngest grandson because of his birthday had to go to school aged 4 years and 1 month and was nowhere near ready. Should have stayed at Nursery where he was happy and doing well. School that early did him no favours.
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Post by tod2 on Jan 18, 2018 11:13:29 GMT
Here too. Can start school if you turn 6 before end of October. My eldest grandson turned 6 at the end of September and so did his brother, so they are almost, if not, the youngest in the class. Then when they struggle to pay attention and work suffers they end up keeping them back a year which no child likes as their friends then go on ahead of them.
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Post by bixaorellana on Jan 26, 2018 23:32:35 GMT
One of my brothers has a birthday towards the end of December, but was allowed to start kindergarten early. He did okay, but my parents decided to have him repeat kindergarten so he could be more the correct age the second time.
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Post by kerouac2 on Jan 26, 2018 23:48:12 GMT
Being from mid-October, I was one of the younger children in 1st grade. Some of the others had been to kindergarten, but it was relatively rare back then. I remember having a six year old version of a panic attack when one of the boys told the nun "I know how to read!"
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Post by bixaorellana on Jan 27, 2018 0:31:15 GMT
Really?! I thought everyone in our general age group in the US went to kindergarten before first grade.
I was always happy that my birthday was toward the middle of the year, plus fell during summer vacation so I would always be the right age for my grade.
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Post by rikita on Jan 27, 2018 1:01:53 GMT
i started school shortly before turning seven ... and later on repeated a year due to my exchange year, and also was still graduating at the time when to get a "abitur" (which qualifies you for university) you had to complete 13 school years ... so i graduated at 20 and started university a few weeks before turning 21 ... and then on the other hand i once tutored a girl preparing for her abitur, who had started school before turning six, and while at that time it was 12 years for the abitur, she was in a "fast track" class who did it in 11 years, so she was going to get the abitur, and i suppose start university, at 16. no point to this, just thought it interesting how much it can vary ...
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Post by kerouac2 on Jan 27, 2018 1:14:21 GMT
something random: it seems i am back together with my ex boyfriend.
Every now and then, I am sent back to page 1 of this thread and am always amazed to read this.
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Post by onlyMark on Jan 27, 2018 7:24:30 GMT
My twin daughters started school on different years. This always caused confusion when we went to a different country and enquired about getting them into an English school there. They wouldn't accept putting them in different years and insisted they would both go in the same one.
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Post by bjd on Jan 27, 2018 8:11:24 GMT
I started school in England at 4 and a half, my birthday being at the beginning of January. When we moved to Canada, I was put in grade 2 because I was 7 but I already knew how to read and write while the kids in the class were just learning to read and doing something called "print-script". I was so bored that I got moved ahead into a mixed-grade class and eventually finished high school at 17, even though there were 13 years of school at that time in Ontario.
Meanwhile, my sister who was just one year older was not allowed to move ahead, even though she was bored too. So for many years we were put in the same class at school, even though there were a lot of classes for each grade level. And at that time, in high school we had to buy our own books and although we were in the same class for 4 years out of 5, we had to each buy our own set of books, including all the novels we studied in English.
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Post by rikita on Jan 27, 2018 8:48:16 GMT
something random: it seems i am back together with my ex boyfriend.
Every now and then, I am sent back to page 1 of this thread and am always amazed to read this.
yeah that was quite a while ago ...
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