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Post by imec on Oct 23, 2009 12:49:20 GMT
Maybe you're just not doing enough. A new study shows that for husbands and wives alike, the more housework you do, the more often you are likely to have sex with your spouse. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2009 12:57:23 GMT
It's true. Unromantic, but true. A man who will cook for me, can have anything he wants.
Flowers and sweet talk does the trick too.
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Post by imec on Oct 23, 2009 13:18:06 GMT
It's true. Unromantic, but true. A man who will cook for me, can have anything he wants. Flowers and sweet talk does the trick too. Did you notice the average "frequency" reported by those they interviewed?(1.6!) - my guess is them people would be willing to try anything at this point... |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2009 13:29:12 GMT
 It would seem some are more desperate than others! Do you think that the longer you are with your partner, the less you actually want to have sex with them? I mean it can get boring doing it with the same person over time. Not like the beginning of a relationship, when you just can't keep your hands off each other...
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Post by imec on Oct 23, 2009 15:18:05 GMT
It would seem some are more desperate than others! Do you think that the longer you are with your partner, the less you actually want to have sex with them? I mean it can get boring doing it with the same person over time. Not like the beginning of a relationship, when you just can't keep your hands off each other... That hasn't been my experience. Decreased private time (kids, work travel) notwithstanding, things haven't changed - and have in some ways just gotten better. Let me try an analogy as it would be tacky to discuss the specifics of a real relationship. I have a little red sports car - had it for 25 years - almost as long as my marriage. When I first drove the car it was indeed a thrill - but I know, without a doubt, that at the time, I didn't know nearly enough about the car to take it to its full potential. Over time I got to know the car very well - when to open the throttle wide and when to ease off; when to stand on the brakes and when to pump them to prevent an uncontrollable slide; when to flick the wheel quickly and when to give it a gentle turn. Eventually the car and I became one - each responding to the inputs and feedback of the other. Today, when I'm sure I've got a clear piece of good road, I love to charge headlong into a really tight curve so fast that it takes the deftest use of the brakes, throttle, gearshift and wheel to make sure I'm upright and pointing in the right direction as I exit the turn - the adrenaline rush is incredible! I still love to thrash her along a twisty bit of road, shifting gears continually to ensure availability of maximum horsepower and torque. I still like to take long, leisurely drives in the country, blasting tunes and enjoying the scenery. We don't so much get away on long road trips anymore (the minivan has assumed that role), but weekend trips are a blast! I still get a big kick out of my car. Are there newer, faster cars around? You bet! Can I afford one? No. I suppose I could steal one; but I'd likely get caught - and besides, it would probably have more performance than I could handle. No, I'll stick with my little red car with the little engine that purrs and sometimes growls. I figure if I look after her, we'll have fun for some time yet. We're good for each other. |
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Post by cristina on Oct 23, 2009 15:54:56 GMT
That is a very sweet analogy, imec. Both Mrs imec and the little red sports car are lucky to have you.
As to the original post, I would think having sex in a clean house is vastly better than having sex in a dirty or cluttered house, personally.
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Post by imec on Oct 23, 2009 16:00:05 GMT
;D reminds me of the old Nick Lowe song "Cruel to be Kind" - gotta be clean to be dirty ;D
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2009 16:01:14 GMT
imec, that really is a very sweet way of looking at things. You are very lucky, and so is your wife. There is something to be said for being completely comfortable with your partner and knowing exactly what they like and don't like and what to do to please.
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Post by spindrift on Oct 23, 2009 18:53:00 GMT
Yes it certainly can get boring with the same partner, but it's not that alone...I think it depends on how kind the partner is; if he's mean and flirtatious around other women why would one want to 'make love' to him?  |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2009 19:25:58 GMT
You took the words right out of my mouth, spindrift. Exactly. Making love to a man who flirts with other women would be the last thing on my mind. I think every woman wants to feel that she is special in some way to the man she cares about. I wonder why many men just don't understand that? Instead they think that by flirting with other women makes them more desirable in some way, not so, just makes them look more offputting, in my opinion.
But then again, if he his like that, then he can't have much respect for the woman he is with, so is not worth it in the first place.
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Post by imec on Oct 23, 2009 20:08:41 GMT
Yes it certainly can get boring with the same partner, but it's not that alone...I think it depends on how kind the partner is; if he's mean and flirtatious around other women why would one want to 'make love' to him? Well.... while "mean" is unacceptable in any form, flirting can cover a wide spectrum from rude and disrespectful to just a bit of fun which would not negatively impact a confident relationship. On the other hand, "kindness" can be a great disguise for dishonesty. As someone who travels a lot for business, I've seen more than my fair share of people (male and female) who, despite a convincing show of kindness and respect for their partner, consider the airport security scanner to also be a "temporary marriage annulment device". |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2009 21:13:56 GMT
I believe that imec. Growing up, we knew of many men who were cheaters, it was just a way of life for some of them. I've seen my share of wives who cheat too. And the more they travel away from home, the more the temptation there is to do so. And yes, they can be the sweetest, kindest people when at home with their spouses, who often are non the wiser. I think it's called having your cake and eating it too. Unfair though it is.
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Post by lagatta on Oct 23, 2009 21:34:33 GMT
Do we get a photo of the little red sportscar?
(That is cuter than Aretha's Pink Cadillac and the Boss's Black one)...
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Post by imec on Oct 23, 2009 21:59:19 GMT
a bit dusty and in the garage at the moment...   |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2009 22:13:47 GMT
Nice car. I understand why 'alfa' now.  |
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Post by lagatta on Oct 23, 2009 22:59:31 GMT
Oh, she's an alfa! I was guessing a British roadster. Had to be a quality European sportscar that lasts forever with proper care and feeding.
Take her (and Madame Imec) out for a spin before the snow sets in for good.
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Post by imec on Oct 23, 2009 23:08:09 GMT
Maybe I'll wash the kitchen floor first ;D
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Post by auntieannie on Oct 25, 2009 10:59:48 GMT
agree with all the above. Here we share the daily tasks as much as love and respect. and trust.
sweet car, that, Imec!
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Post by traveler63 on Oct 28, 2009 22:12:41 GMT
I love your analogy and it really fits how Mr T63 and I feel and we too have a little red sports car. I love yours!  |
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Post by hwinpp on Oct 29, 2009 5:23:27 GMT
Is that a Viper, T63?
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Post by imec on Oct 29, 2009 7:27:08 GMT
Very nice Vette T63 Thanks for posting this.
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Post by hwinpp on Oct 29, 2009 8:31:24 GMT
That's a Corvette? Just goes to show the extent of my knowledge of American cars...
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Post by auntieannie on Oct 29, 2009 13:26:01 GMT
oooh I just LOVE that song!
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Post by rikita on Oct 29, 2009 22:10:46 GMT
hm and there i hoped that i could dump all the housework on the bf... shame...
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