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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2009 17:43:59 GMT
Some people just seem to have it easier in life then others, have you noticed? Ever wonder why?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2009 18:19:59 GMT
No, I have never wondered why, except when obnoxious stupid people succeed in life, which thank god, is not too often, unless they suddenly become president of France or (several years ago) the United States.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2009 18:28:54 GMT
I think a combination of intelligence and beauty and wealth, must make life easier for sure.
Shouldn't be that way really, I mean it's not really fair on those that are not born that way.
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Post by fumobici on Nov 4, 2009 19:07:34 GMT
I don't think intelligence helps here, or at least it's as likely to hinder as help. Being smarter than those around you is not a recipe for happiness. Physical beauty and money- absolutely.
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Post by bazfaz on Nov 4, 2009 21:47:31 GMT
I think cats have it easiest in life. They get fed on demand, they get stroked when they want it and if they don't want it they scratch, they get to go out hunting when the mood takes them, and when they purr because you have pleased them they make you think you have been wonderful.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2009 21:53:23 GMT
Yes,dogs have masters. Cats have staff.
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Post by imec on Nov 5, 2009 1:57:59 GMT
I voted for other - I think it's the one who has achieved balance who is happiest. Not that I wouldn't want to be beautiful, wealthy, intelligent, sunny, driven etc., but often the people who have these things continue to pursue them relentlessly - and are never quite satisfied. Knowing what you can reasonably achieve, expect and so on and accepting those limits I think goes a long way to ensuring happiness and satisfaction.
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Post by spindrift on Nov 5, 2009 11:53:36 GMT
I go for beauty, intelligence, wealth and of course - the right connections...maybe that should be first.  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2009 12:17:10 GMT
I am conflicted on this. What exactly is easiest in life REALLY mean? I suppose Imec's response comes closest to where I'm at on this.
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Post by bjd on Nov 5, 2009 12:27:17 GMT
I don't know what it is supposed to mean either, so I'll just agree with Bazfaz about cats.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2009 15:25:06 GMT
Okay, easiest as in, getting what we want out of life, whatever that may be. i.e. that job, that partner, that house, that life style, and many other things. Not having to struggle, or try tooo hard, you get the picture?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2009 15:28:37 GMT
I voted for other - I think it's the one who has achieved balance who is happiest. Not that I wouldn't want to be beautiful, wealthy, intelligent, sunny, driven etc., but often the people who have these things continue to pursue them relentlessly - and are never quite satisfied. Knowing what you can reasonably achieve, expect and so on and accepting those limits I think goes a long way to ensuring happiness and satisfaction. That's a good way of looking at things, imec. After all, beauty fades, wealth can be lost or become meaningless after some time, intelligence is here and there, There are many intelligent people around that seem to get no where. Then there are many educated people around who also seem to get no where, and can come across as boring and bland to boot. As for happiness, I reckon the person with the sunny disposition would win. |
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Post by rikita on Nov 7, 2009 16:39:14 GMT
didn't we discuss this before? or was that on ttr? well, as casimira said, it depends a bit what is seen as "easiest". i would guess the wealthy have it a lot easier than the starving - but a wealthy lonely person might have it less easy than a person with just sufficient money but many friends and loved ones, for example. i guess it also depends what you want in life. a very intelligent but short and fat person who wants to become a model might have it just as hard as a tall and slim but not so smart person that wants to become a professor.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 7, 2009 18:18:41 GMT
I guess it also depends what you want in life. a very intelligent but short and fat person who wants to become a model might have it just as hard as a tall and slim but not so smart person that wants to become a professor. I think that rikita hits the nail on the head here, because you also have to figure out what different people want out of life. When I read about how unhappy some of the rich and beautiful are sometimes, it makes it clear that these people never considered 'rich' or 'beautiful' to be the most important qualities of life, as so many of the rest of us stupidly believe sometimes. I have regularly tried to imagine how my life would change if I were to become rich and famous, not at all in terms of suddenly having a lot of extra possessions, but in terms of meeting lots of new people who would suddenly want to become my best friend. And it has become clear to me that it would be incredibly horrible to never again be sure why people would be attracted to me. I think I really do understand why so many 'stars' are unhappy when they have not been able to keep their original set of friends from 'before.' |
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Post by rikita on Nov 8, 2009 20:19:12 GMT
well i suppose a lot of them in the beginning believe that getting rich and famous is what they want, and only with time find out it wasn't, really. and i guess that can be even more depressing - to get what everyone aspires to, what you thought makes you happy - and then realize it doesn't make you happy after all...
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2009 15:48:45 GMT
Being Rich and beautiful is no guarantee of happiness, no. But it can open doors for you, what you do with those doors is what counts.
Having both the above kind of people in my family. My sister is a very beatuiful woman, and my aunt is extremely wealthy, I KNOW that it can bring just as much misery as anything else.
Finding an inner peace within us, is what counts, but that can be easier said then done.
As for fame, that's something I wouldn't want even if it was thrown at me.
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Post by tillystar on Nov 9, 2009 21:56:01 GMT
I agree with this. Although one single characteristic that may make things "easier" for a person or at least lead to a contentment with life is a strong sense of self belief.
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Post by rikita on Nov 10, 2009 1:41:42 GMT
i guess... and with money, i guess it also sometimes depends on the amounts. someone with any amount of money of course has it easier than someone with no money nor food during a drought in a very poor country. but someone who is poor but can get by and is content with that might have still have it easier than someone with lots of money and no idea what to do with their life.
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