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Post by auntieannie on Apr 2, 2009 18:48:55 GMT
Well, I am an over-achiever and am the littlest by a long way. sis is 7 years older and bro is 5 years older. Although I know what you are trying to say, all of you above.
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Post by gyro on Apr 3, 2009 4:26:31 GMT
Yeah, all just generalised guesswork really.
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Post by Kimby on Apr 3, 2009 18:10:52 GMT
The 5 year gap is large enough to contribute an only child/firstborn effect on auntiejeannie's upbringing. My husband is more like a first-born, but was 4 1/2 years younger than his brother.
On the other hand, my middle sister is the overachiever in our family, and I was always glad that I was born first and didn't have to follow her: I was 6th in my class, she was valedictorian. I got almost all A's (excluding PE) and she aced every class.
Our youngest sister didn't even try to excel academically - she became the family athlete, competing in skiing and track.
And our parents were infinitely stricter on me than on the youngest.
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Post by rikita on Apr 6, 2009 21:47:21 GMT
we were three groing up, i am the oldest, the next is a year and a half younger than me, the next is 5 and a half years younger than him. well now there is another brother who is 25 years younger than me, but i guess that one doesn't count here...
well yeah my parents were stricter with my than with my brothers - well my brother that is a year and a half younger basically was allowed most things at the same time i was, also because we did a lot of things together. the little one never had to help at home, and was allowed most things quite early. then again, he was also the most rebellious so maybe my parents just didn't find a way to forbid him things.
as for school, i was the one that was doing (more or less) well in school, next brother was never the academic type, little brother was good when he was very little, but soon annoyed teachers with his rebelliousnes and lazyness.
i guess i was the one that was most believing in authorities and all that, most shy and least curageous when it came to a lot of those things. for example, i never dared to argue with a teacher. and i am the only one who never started smoking - on the other hand, i am the most curageous one i think when it comes to facing new situations (like going abroad and stuff like that).
as for independence - i would say we are independent in different ways. the middle brother is the first one to become independent financially, and he was (though mainly due to getting an apprenticeship far away) the first to move out of home completely. on the other hand, he still has most difficulties organizing things for himself, he prefers to tag along with someone else, while i get my ideas of what i want to do, and then i do it. the little brother still lives at home, still very much likes having my mom's help for everything, but then again he also has his way of doing his own thing. though i'd still say he is the least independent - or maybe the least interested in even being independent, he is happy with his life as it is.
my parents tend to say that our middle brother had it hardest because he is the middle child. not sure, if that is the case. for one thing, for over five years he was the youngest child rather than the middle child. and as a small child there was definitely some kind of throwing me off my "throne" - particularly since i was a somewhat complicated child that wanted a lot of attention, while he was the type of cute, easy child that got attention without even trying for it. of course that is only my point of view though.
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