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Post by tod2 on May 8, 2017 16:38:03 GMT
Thanks , I have looked at the outline but will come back to the article in depth. Thanks so much.
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Post by Kimby on May 28, 2017 2:30:22 GMT
Mr. Kimby's Mom seems to be dying. She was released from the hospital 2 days ago (a second hospitalization in the past month) and is back in the skilled nursing facility at the continuing care campus where she's lived since 2004. We started hospice yesterday, but didn't really think she was dying. But today we are getting calls every few hours: she's restless (terminal agitation?), her breathing is getting irregular, and now her skin is getting mottled. All signs of impending death.
We were so hopeful after her surgery to fix the hip she broke in a fall that, after rehabbing the hip and regaining mobility, she would be able to move to assisted living. So we set up her new apartment and took her to see it. That was on the last day of our visit to Florida. But 4 days later she was back in the hospital having seizures and getting very confused. Guess it wasn't meant to be.. At 2 months shy of 94, she's had a good run. And pretty soon both Mr. Kimby and I will be orphans....
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Post by kerouac2 on May 28, 2017 4:41:03 GMT
Sad news but not unexpected. I hope for your sake that the process does not stretch on needlessly.
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Post by bjd on May 28, 2017 4:50:12 GMT
Yes, good luck Kimby with the next stage in your lives. 94 is indeed a good run.
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2017 13:28:32 GMT
Sorry to hear of her decline. Hope she goes peacefully. Thinking of you both. Take care. Are you back in Florida now?
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Post by Kimby on May 28, 2017 14:27:37 GMT
Thanks, everyone. No call in the night, so she is still "with us", though we are in Montana again and she is in good hands at Shell Point in Ft. Myers, Florida.
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2017 14:36:15 GMT
Should you have to go there prepare yourself for the bloody humid hot weather although you will likely be in AC most of the time. Best wishes. Becoming an orphan takes some adjusting to but is far better than the waiting and worrying, dreading that phone call in the night or at any given time. Mine came by total surprise and sent me into shock and massive denial but I knew that the time was coming after my last visit with my mother. She knew and conveyed to me in her own way that she was tired and "ready" and was not afraid. I cherish those last days we had together.
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Post by Kimby on May 28, 2017 15:24:27 GMT
Morning call says she's resting comfortably, mostly unconscious. Last words we know of -mini mental exam for hospice admission - indicate she's hallucinating or revisiting the past. She thought she was back in Wisconsin and it was snowing! If anyone is interested, here's the website for the life care retirement community they chose in 1999, to ensure their kids wouldn't have to worry about them as they aged out... www.shellpoint.org/index.phpAnd yes, Casi, I am bracing for an onslaught of heat and humidity. And over-air-conditioning, too.
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Post by mossie on May 28, 2017 18:47:26 GMT
Not an easy time Kimby, be brave
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Post by questa on May 29, 2017 1:24:44 GMT
Sending you good thoughts,Kimby, you have prepared well and she knows when to 'let go'
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Post by Kimby on May 29, 2017 2:16:17 GMT
Still hanging on...
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Post by Kimby on May 29, 2017 22:48:31 GMT
And then there were none. Mr Kimby's Mom died peacefully this afternoon after 3 days of hospice care.
The Kimby's have gone in 4 short years from having 4 parents in their 90's to having none, losing 3 parents in the last 1 1/2 years. (And 2 cats, too.)
Hope the sad times are behind us now.
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2017 22:53:24 GMT
I am so sorry dearheart. My most sincere condolences to you and yours. May she find peace.
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Post by questa on May 30, 2017 0:36:07 GMT
Condolences to Kimby and family. After the sorrow will come sunshine again.
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Post by Kimby on May 30, 2017 0:52:09 GMT
Now a breather. Till it's time to start an aging siblings thread....
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 2:08:44 GMT
Let's not "go there" yet dear. Please.
Each in their own time.
Get through this the best way that you are able to as you did with your own parents and so graciously shared with us.
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Post by kerouac2 on May 30, 2017 3:36:42 GMT
So sorry, Kimby, but eternal thanks for starting this thread, which has been very useful to many people.
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Post by Kimby on May 30, 2017 3:54:10 GMT
Useful, not least to me! Please if you admins/helpers ever decide to close down AnyPort, give me time to download this thread. It's a journal of my past 7 or 8 years...
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Post by bjd on May 30, 2017 5:18:05 GMT
Condolences once again, Kimby.
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Post by cheerypeabrain on May 30, 2017 6:44:57 GMT
My condolences Kimby. So sorry for your loss. Take care x
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Post by mickthecactus on May 30, 2017 7:10:51 GMT
My condolences too Kimby.
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Post by questa on May 30, 2017 7:12:35 GMT
For another slant on the subject - I am the aging parent and can tell how it affects me when my boys (now 40+) are seemingly in denial of my condition.(Parkinson's Disease) I was diagnosed 11 years ago, and it is developing very slowly so to most people I appear as a healthy woman who looks younger than her years (75) I still climb ladders, use power tools, drive and live independently. What they don't see is on the bad days, the weariness, aches and pains and the loss of capacity to remember things or concentrate on anything. My sons have not read any of the pamphlets I gave them. Not interested yet. Have to wait for more brain cells to die
Question: Would the Anyporters like me to post an occasional update of the journey I am on. I hope it will be humorous more than morbid, and it will balance the stories of Kerouac2 and Kimby
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Post by bjd on May 30, 2017 8:45:28 GMT
Please do, Questa. It would give us a perspective from the inside. But maybe start a different thread.
A Canadian friend of mine was diagnosed with Parkinson's when she was 50. The diagnosis took a while because the doctor kept telling her it was menopause. Over the years, she has told me that the worst was friends and family pretending there was nothing wrong and never wanting to hear how she really was doing.
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Post by htmb on May 30, 2017 9:40:37 GMT
You have my sincere condolences, Kimby.
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Post by htmb on May 30, 2017 9:43:26 GMT
Questa, I'm sure hearing about your journey would be very helpful to many of us.
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Post by mickthecactus on May 30, 2017 10:26:42 GMT
Questa, I'm sure hearing about your journey would be very helpful to many of us. Indeed. We never know what's round that corner.......
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Post by Kimby on May 30, 2017 12:01:59 GMT
There seem to be fewer and fewer of us who HAVE parents anymore, and all of us are aging. Post your stories here if you like, questa, or if the moderators/helpers prefer, start a new thread, but link it here, so we can find it. Good luck on your Parkinson's journey. Glad it's progressing slowly, questa.
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Post by mossie on May 30, 2017 14:45:05 GMT
So many of these things are very insiduous, one doesn't know one has a problem until it is too late.
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Post by rikita on Jun 1, 2017 0:16:54 GMT
condolences, Kimby.
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Post by questa on Jun 1, 2017 0:28:33 GMT
Humour is in everything, even what some people call black humour, it doesn't pay to be too sensitive in my family. I belong to a car club where the people there have known me for over 50 years. At a BBQ breakfast a lad was shaking up a pancake mixture bottle when my son #1 walked past. Noting my hands had a tremor, he took the pancake mix from the lad and gave it to me saying to him "give it to her to shake, she's a professional"
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