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Post by cheerypeabrain on Oct 15, 2020 18:35:36 GMT
Bixa it's a platform thing with drawers underneath. Took 3 men to get it up the stairs and we can't flip it we just turn it. We have a thick mattress topper....but we think we need a new one.
Unfortunately we need a new boiler too so I guess that will come first. Had our old one serviced this morning..the engineer reckons that it will get us through this winter then we should replace it. (It's 18 years old)
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Post by lagatta on Oct 15, 2020 18:44:18 GMT
I can't find "family and friends". Sorry, I'm a bit discombobulated right now.
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Post by Kimby on Oct 15, 2020 19:08:29 GMT
A king mattress is close enough to square that it might be possible to turn it 90 degrees on the bedframe, perhaps allowing your bodies to create NEW valleys.
You’d still put the sheets on in the “proper direction” if they aren’t the huge pocket floppy sheets they sell now for the very thick mattresses they sell.
We have a 2” memory foam topper on our king mattress that we love and can turn independent of the mattress which we rotate 180 degrees and flip in alternating years, usually at the first sheet change after New Years Day. (We refuse to buy a “pillow top mattress that can’t be flipped over.). I keep records by noting where the sewn-on label is (under head end, above foot end, etc.)
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Post by bixaorellana on Oct 15, 2020 19:09:44 GMT
Htmb, you probably know this, but buy the office chair in person. A few months ago I was in Office Depot with a friend. We test drove many of the chairs there and were shocked at how uncomfortable &/or unsupportive many of them were. Oh, that's a pain, Cheery. If it somehow makes you feel any better, I just went to AmazonUK to see what they had in toppers similar to what I bought. I am now sulking badly because you get so much more & pay so much less for wool in the UK than in the US or Mexico. Pays to be in a country with a sheep industry! LaGatta ~ anyportinastorm.proboards.com/thread/5578/family-friends?page=12The Search engine is stupid and finicky. When you search, try putting only one of the pertinent words in the thread title slot.
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Post by htmb on Oct 15, 2020 19:19:30 GMT
Hahahaha! There’s not much chance I’d go into a store here unless it’s a dire emergency. Too many Covid spreaders around who aren’t careful. A couple of years before I retired I bought a fabulous desk chair for work. Very adjustable with wonderful lumbar support. My former colleague still uses it so I’d probably just get the item info from her.
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Post by Kimby on Oct 15, 2020 19:23:17 GMT
I am traumatized by a discovery I made today after yesterday’s shopping trip.
My go-to beverage is a stevia-sweetened powdered drink mix that you add to a 16 Oz bottle of water. Made by True Lemon, it has only 10 calories and the flavors encourage me to drink more fluids than if I had plain water with meals.
Yesterday I ventured into Walmart (my least favorite store, especially since COVID) because it’s the only store that sells the only flavor of vanilla ice cream that Mr. Kimby likes (Blue Bunny Homemade Vanilla, if you’re dying to know).
Since Walmart also has a better assortment of True Lemon drinks, I tossed 16 boxes in my cart, enough for 160 bottles, I thought. There were a couple new flavors (pink lemonade and blueberry-raspberry) that were labelled “True Lemon Kids” and have 25% of daily vitamins A, C and E, so I grabbed some of those, too.
So today I mix it up and it seems pretty weak both in flavor and color. Turns out that the kids’ drink, though in identical sized box and individual serving-size tubes as the adult version - and are priced the same - are designed to be mixed in an 8-Oz cup rather than a 16 Oz bottle.
That’s cheating! I’m pretty peeved. (First world problem, I know.)
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Post by questa on Oct 16, 2020 3:25:52 GMT
I am still using an office chair I bought 9 years ago at a sale of Government stuff no longer required. It had been in the Detectives area of SA Police and there was a great hollow in the seat where some fat bottom had sat grilling suspects.
It needs to be re-gassed. When I sit in it, it lets out a sigh and then...clunk, as the upper section reaches the hydraulics.
The wheels (5) are slightly flattened and each prefers to go its separate way until I kick a sense of unity into them.I keep saying, "I'LL get a new one" but then I see the dozens of models available and go into overload. What should I avoid in an office chair (apart from the office creep)
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Post by kerouac2 on Oct 18, 2020 6:26:12 GMT
I have to admire how well organised certain internet people are. I saw this person for the last time about 3 years ago at a dinner with whatagain. He wanted to invite chexbres as well but did not know how to contact her. Anyway, this isn't a great surprise since he was already travelling in those days with his portable oxygen tank. He also posted a few times here (nukesafe) and was famous for his humour on the forums.
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Post by tod2 on Oct 18, 2020 12:38:56 GMT
Ha! I remember Nukesafe. From Fodors board I think. One person I do remember clearly was Robespierre as he had some darn good advice on getting around Paris. Then the news came he had passed away - cancer I think.
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Post by bixaorellana on Oct 18, 2020 15:51:27 GMT
He must have died fairly recently, as I see his last visit to anyport was on June 8 of this year. From his short list of posts here, it's obvious he was intelligent, witty, and could really write.
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Post by kerouac2 on Oct 18, 2020 16:11:58 GMT
However, he was often criticised for referring to his first spouse as his "practice wife."
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Post by bixaorellana on Oct 18, 2020 16:38:19 GMT
Yeah, I saw that in his post about the canals. Since he immediately afterward mentioned their four children, it was obvious that "PW" was meant to be amusing. It amused me.
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Post by whatagain on Oct 19, 2020 7:53:20 GMT
We went to eat at la Ferrandaise, a nice restaurant close to parc des Tuileries. One if his sons lives in Belgium or Germany close to where my own brother lives. Nukesafe is indeed witty, sharp, smart and amusing, and has a liveky wife. I try to be ghe same but didn't need a practice wife, i was on target on first try.
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Post by bjd on Oct 19, 2020 11:05:12 GMT
I had no idea who he was. I just looked and he only had 4 posts on AnyPort, the last in early 2011. I suppose you who are on other forums knew him.
Whatagain, I hope your wife sees that last line.
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Post by cheerypeabrain on Oct 19, 2020 14:05:23 GMT
Questa...we used to have those chairs in the lab...I loved being able to whizz about on the wheels between analysers...indeed I occasionally raced the biochemist down the goods ramp outside pathology in the middle of the night when we were on call. Then Health and Safety took all the wheels off and informed us that chairs with little wheels were unsafe. Pfft. We were unimpressed.
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Post by Kimby on Oct 24, 2020 22:00:43 GMT
I am in the doghouse with my brother in law. Again. I made an innocent comment on FB about dishes to my (surviving) sister, and he took it totally the wrong way and my niece took his side, all very publicly on FB. I couldn't fix it by adding to it, so I deleted my post to my sister and all the ugly comments went away with it.
How it happened. I was perusing the Modern Dinnerware page on FB and saw some melamine dishes that I knew our parents had had, that matched in color their much nicer Russel Wright dishes (which are collected by Midcentury Modern fans). I tried to tag my sister in the comments, but since she wasn't a member of the group I couldn't, so I shared it to her timeline instead. Then promptly forgot that we weren't conversing on the public page.
Long story short, she replied that we had only kept the Russel Wright, not the melamine. And I replied "And now they're in Arizona..."
Brother in law was hurt that I'd been so dismissive, since we'd let my dear departed sister take the Russel Wright when we divided our parents' things, and they had some of the nicer pieces on display in glass-fronted cabinets in their kitchen. Of course I was glad that my sister had taken the dishes and was using them, at least some of the time. The shorthand comment was for my sister who I knew would get what I meant. But on a public forum I didn't feel it was necessary to go into details.
Except it wasn't a public forum, it was my living sister's personal Facebook page, and brother in law and niece both saw it and pounced on me. It was an innocent mistake and an innocent comment, but it has gotten me on the wrong side of my rather prickly brother in law once again. I get that he's grieving, we all are. I wish that I didn't have to walk on eggshells around him. I (more than other people) seem to set him off so easily, and so unintentionally. Arrgh.
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Post by kerouac2 on Oct 24, 2020 22:22:57 GMT
Well, you're safe here.
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Post by questa on Oct 24, 2020 23:44:42 GMT
Arrgh indeed! One thing that the internet does is make big mistakes out of little misconstrued comments.You didn't mean to cause trouble but that is how your b-i-l and family read it. You are all in extremely trying times and it only takes a spark to set things off.
It also only takes a gesture like saying sorry for not checking which forum you were posting in, or telling them you won't post family difficulties on-line again, to start the process towards a better relationship between you all.
Have you considered counselling as a group with a grief or family counsellor to help you get through the 'walking on egg shells'phase. I think it would really help your family.
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Post by Kimby on Oct 25, 2020 0:35:38 GMT
We are in 4 states, MT, AZ, Wi, IL, so not likely to happen.
BIL has been in grief counseling, and has made a lot of personal progress. In that area anyway. However, even before my sister died, I have inadvertently pushed his buttons on numerous occasions. Without her here to mediate potential spats, and with the physical distance separating us, it seems to have gotten worse.
I did apologize, as well as explaining how my blunder happened. No response. I don't know if he even saw the messages.
And BTW, I got in trouble for NOT being personal, instead of being too personal. It was BIL and niece who were IMO being inappropriate for a FB discussion.
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Post by tod2 on Oct 25, 2020 7:57:46 GMT
Oh dear Kimby - we consider FB a place where so many people cross swords. I keep off it and only occasionally look to see what a relative or friends are up to, but never post a message unless its a birthday greeting and the like. As for your BIL, he dislikes you and I don't think that's going to change anytime soon. It may be difficult but steer clear and stop knocking yourself out to please him.
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Post by whatagain on Oct 25, 2020 11:13:21 GMT
Hi Kimby
It took me a short time to realise i cannot please everyone 😁 but a long time to realise I should not care. Some people just cannot be pleased.
You should try to answer the following questions imo : - do you like the guy ? - what amount of effort do you want to put into the relationship to make it better - what amount of effort does HE put - is the effort draining you - what about your husband, does he care ?
Then with the answers you can solve the next ine : - should i not be better to drop it altogether... - are my efforts really worth it.
I asked these questions for myself and my mother in law and i think she did too So we don't do much on either side but the goal is that she sees my children and my wife so it is ok.
My wife did the same and realised she was better off without seeing my father. I am sure if i die she won't see him anymore. Which is fair consideri g the lack of efforts on his side too.
Just my 2 cents from far away, but quoting my mother when she was 40 and me 14 : i am too old to pretend to like people i don't. I have better use of my time.
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Post by tod2 on Oct 25, 2020 11:40:14 GMT
Oh that last sentence is brilliant Whatagain! It reminded me of an old friend's comment when we were discussing New Year's Resolutions. No denying certain pleasures, no committing to certain routines, but simply dumping all the irritations and stress in her life. The first of which was to fire her maid….. I know most won't relate to that action but like any job, some people just irritate the heck out of you without meaning too. I decided this year to "ghost" a certain acquaintance and get her moans and groans out of my life. Try giving your 'thorns' the boot -it's a marvellous feeling of freedom!
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Post by casimira on Oct 25, 2020 12:55:15 GMT
Just my 2 cents from far away, but quoting my mother when she was 40 and me 14 : i am too old to pretend to like people i don't. I have better use of my time.
THE BEST advice and wisdom I have heard in a really long time! Merci! I only wish I had heard/read it a long time ago. Such a wise woman.
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Post by kerouac2 on Nov 1, 2020 15:31:34 GMT
I have to wait for my thumb to stop bleeding before I can continue the meal preparation in the kitchen.
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Post by cheerypeabrain on Nov 1, 2020 16:49:43 GMT
Gosh...hope you're ok Kerouac. I frequently cut myself when preparing food..also seem to have a litle burn from the oven tray every few weeks.
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Post by kerouac2 on Nov 1, 2020 16:58:10 GMT
Problem solved. I have avoided oven burns for a few months now, so I am due for a new one soon.
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Post by questa on Nov 3, 2020 7:19:01 GMT
THE BEST advice and wisdom I have heard in a really long time! Merci! I only wish I had heard/read it a long time ago. Such a wise woman. Another wise woman said:- When I was 20 I worried about what people thought of me. When I was 40 I did not care about what people thought of me. When I was 60 I realised that they were not thinking of me at all.
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Post by casimira on Nov 3, 2020 12:09:05 GMT
Thanks for that Questa. It took me awhile but, over time, I did figure that one out.
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Post by whatagain on Nov 3, 2020 16:15:34 GMT
My pet peeve of the day : asleep,i put my little finger in my left ear. Then i hear a lot if noise, wake up with a start and realise a mosquito was in my ear, half crushed. It hurt but i survived.
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Post by tod2 on Nov 3, 2020 16:24:12 GMT
Oh thats's a horrible experience! I can't abide my ears itching and use Cotton buds at least twice a week. They….the experts, say you should not do that but I find it absolutely wonderful!
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